I'm 18 and have been worried I don't actually know who I am for like 2 years now. I always thought that I was straight, and I thought that finding lesbian porn and the women on porn a arousing was normal, but now I'm not so sure and I really don't know what to do... I know I'm not lesbian because the only one's I have a romantic attraction for is men. They're the only ones I find attractive in real life. I just don't know if I'm bisexual because I have no feelings for women like that and I can't look at them in any other way than just friendship and its not cause I've been brought up to like men, it's because I don't find them romantically attractive. I can't fall see myself spending the rest of my life with a girl. What do you think? Am I bi? Or heteroflexible? I feel like porn has me all confused. Any input would be great?
You sound straight to me; porn isn't a very reliable factor in sexuality. If you can only see yourself dating a man, then I think it's safe to assume that you're straight.
Yeah, lesbian porn doesn't make you gay or bi. I've watched porn and been aroused by things I would never ever do. Only ever being with one sex doesn't make you straight either. If you don't find women in real life sexually or romantically attractive, you might straight.
Here's a question for you: why does it matter? If you have no interest in ever doing anything in real life, then what does it matter whether you are straight or bisexual?
Well, you're 18, so your still young and you might still discover more about yourself as you age, but from what your saying, it sounds like your straight. Do you have any sexual fantasies about women when not watching porn? Have you ever had a crush on another girl or woman?
I've never had a crush or even found a woman attractive in any way other than thinking she's pretty...But, I do enjoy lesbian porn, you don't think that makes me bisexual?
Do I think that finding film sexy that was designed to be sexy makes you bisexual? No. No more so than I think that finding MM porn sexy makes me a gay man. Certainly no more so than me enjoying straight porn makes me straight. Now if you want to *do* the things you see in lesbian porn, I'd say that could qualify you as at least "bicurious", depending on the kind of desire it is. (Again, I compare here to watching straight porn and saying, hmmm, if I had a penis, I would enjoy doing that with her...I don't think that makes me a man in any sense.) But the fact that I watch straight porn and say "mmm, they're both rather hot; I wish I could do X with her, or Y with him...or better, get in the middle and do both at once"...I think does add evidence to my bisexuality. But again, the film is *designed* to be sexually appealing...so take it *all* with a grain of salt.
