I know this is going to be a stupid question, some may even find it offensive (I have a special skill in upsetting people without intend to), but it's a really serious question. Can you stop your sexuality from being fluid? I'm a 15 year old girl and I figured out I wasn't straight around elevenish, and labeled myself bi in my head simply because I didn't know. I didn't want to be with guys but I also didn't want to rule them out from my life. Even though I had set this label, this bothered me very much. I thought about it every single day, multiple times a day, trying to figure out if I was a lesbian or not). This went on until about last year, when I was like "fuck it I'm super gay". And I honestly were. I had come out as bi at this point, my whole school knew, but I started coming out as gay. However, this year I've realised I had a point in this "I don't want to exclude boys", because NOW, when I am not a closeted lesbian but an open one, I have found slowly losing interest in girls and being attracted to guys. Again, I may say, because this is what it was like before realising I wasn't straight (without sexual arousal, of course). I started to come out as bi again, explaining that my sexuality changed and at times I may be gay, but then I may be bi, and then I might be straight. People tried to understand. Anyways, now I'm turning gay again. And honestly, I like me being gay way more. It feels more like me. So now to the stupid question. I want to always be gay, is there some way I can stabilise my sexuality? I realise most likely this answer is no, I cannot, but I'd love to hear another
I don't know if I understood it correctly neither if what I'm about to say is going to be much help. I know how being gay feels more like you, but if you're attracted to guys, that's also you. I don't know how to answer your question about stabilising your orientation, but accepting that sometimes you may be into boys more than girls is a start. It'll maybe help with the sensation that a fluid sexuality may bring. Also, if you like your gayself more, why not embrace it? Date a girl and be as gayly as you want. Enjoy being yourself, you're not a label. Classifying is helpful, but it can be confusing and overwhelming in these situations.
