At the age of 13 i realised I was gay I was attracted to men I am older now and I love being gay but latley I've been having thoughts about omen and I don't like it they don't attract me and I'm scared because I don't know why these thoughts are happening I want to stay gay I don't want these thoughts to change me What dose this mean?
You mean like you see a pretty girl and you think SHE IS CUTE... OH MY GOD I AM STRAIGHT IF I THINK SHE IS ATTRACTIVE and then you start to have anxiety?
I can see a girl and think yeah she's pretty but I'm scared that the thoughts and images I see when I close my eyes if I'm turning straight and I don't want that
Why be scared? It doesn't matter. Would finding women attractive be all that awful? Sexual identity does not have to be fixed. There is no law of the universe that says so. For what it is worth, my advice is just to relax. The thoughts will either go away, or stay. If they go away, then no problem. If they stay, then you will have to decide what to do about them.
That's help full I get to relax but I can't let the idea go I want to be with men I'm just scared with these thoughts and images
First of all You cannot turn straight. you could be bisexual, pansexual or whatever You could have ocd. I do not know you and i am not a psychiatrist
Don't be scared. Its all OK. As ShaiHulud said, you cannot turn straight. If you find that you are not 100% exclusively gay, then that's fine. But there is no need to panic. It will all work out in time.
That cheered me up ---------- Post added 1st Jan 2016 at 10:04 AM ---------- So a gay man can have these thoughts and images and still be gay?
Ok lets talk about it. Sexuality is not that simple, society tries to put labels, but it is more than that. I would call myself gay, because i have no sexual or emotional interest in women, i do not care about dating them or having sex with them, but many times in my life i thought that a girl was hot and sexy, Does that make me straight or bisexual? NO. I watched many times straight porn and i enjoyed seeing naked girls, but i still label as gay. Now if you remember the first times you had sexual attraction towards men, you probably had a mix of curiosity, you felt excited but worried and scared at the same time. Are these thoughts similar to the gay ones? Do these thoughts come because you openly create them or are they intrusive? do you feel guilty and in panic after those thoughts? If someone say to you NO YOU ARE GAY does that make you feel happy and relaxed, but then after maybe 1 hour you start to have that feeling of worry and panic? Do you try to test yourself to see if you are straight or gay? (like searching for pictures, videos, or straight articles/forums etc)
I felt right and good having sexual thoughts about men I don't feel guilty I have them someone says immgay Imsay so what get over it
