Hi, I am a 25 year old woman with no sexual experience. I have always been attracted to woman but i have realised that i am not turned on whatsoever by lesbian porn. On the otherside i am turned on by straight porn and being touched by a man. The thing is i dont thing there would be a scenery where i could be with a man (very low chances/ crushes on men) and i am only turned thinking about lesbian sex if i am thinking about a crush. As you can imagine all this is very confusing and coming out seems impossible because basically i would have to spate the above everytime i came out to someone and i find it extremely personal. This seems as a cycle as i can find anyone out there cuz im not out...any thought/advise?
There's been lots of forums in various different sites that has different sorts of people watching porn that are not in their area of sexuality. For instance, a straight women and men would get aroused by watching a gay men porn but it doesn't really affect their gender or sexuality. Watching porn doesn't necessarily impact your current sexuality. Some uses it to find out wether they are a certain sexuality or not. It sounds like that you are sexually and emotionally have an interest on females. But are aroused by female and male intercourse. But maybe try to experiment or find a relationship with a woman since you are pretty much convinced that you are a lesbian. Then again, you can always wait until a relationship comes to you and/or wether you have feelings with that person if they are female or male. It is up to you. Try to also accept what sexuality you are, will or might be. You do not also have to answer or come out as anything if you are confused, maybe some might find it annoying but it is your life and try not to feel rushed by anything at the moment. Just try to be relaxed and not focus so much on a sexuality but what ever you feel towards a person or a gender. ((hope something somewhere in there helped lol. ))
It's possible that your romantic and sexual orientations don't match up (i.e. homoromantic hetero/bisexual--not specifically that combination, per se.) Another thought: could you be demi-(homo/bi/whatever)sexual? It kinda sounds like you are only sexually attracted to girls after a bond has been created--can't answer that for you though.