Hi. I'm Sophia, I'm 17. Lately (like within the last 7 months) I've been thinking alot about my sexuality and I'm not really sure that I'm straight. I've always thought I was straight, and in middle school I was boy crazy. I wanted to date every boy i laid eyes on. Now, I think I'm starting to have feelings for girls and maybe boys too but I dont really know. My freshman year was the first time I realized I might've had a crush on a girl. I had just moved to a new school and I instantly became best friends with this girl. I would constantly want to be texting her and talking to her. Then I started to get kind of nervous around her and I felt like I always wanted to impress her and I became extremely jealous when she talked to other girls and boys. I was always upset if she didnt text me back too. Back then I didnt really think too much about it. I thought that was what friendships were supposed to be like. But after I thought about it more and more I realized that maybe I did have feelings for her. Sophomore year was when I got my first boyfriend. I liked the idea of having a boyfriend and I liked holding hands and cuddling but I had no desire to kiss him. After 4 months the relationship ended because I just wasnt feeling it anymore. I havent had a boyfriend since then. Now I'm not even sure if I like boys at all. I've never had sex or kissed anyone before, but the idea of having sex with guys doesnt gross me out and I wouldnt be bothered by having sex with a guy at all. But having a boyfriend doesnt appeal to me. On the other hand, I feel like i would be open to having sex with a girl. It seems fun and I think I would like it. I also feel a huge emotional connection to girls and the idea of having a girlfriend makes me excited and happy. I think I do like girls, but I'm really not sure if I'm strictly a lesbian or if i could be bisexual too. If you guys have any advice for me I'd really appreciate it!
Hey Sophia! Welcome to EC! I hope you enjoy our community. You have taken a huge step by coming here and asking for advice. Congratulations on that. Only you can reach a conclusion about your sexuality and orientation. Also, do not worry about labels if you find them too confusing, you don't need a label unless you want it. Some questions that might help (may be a bit redundant since you already said a bit about your thoughts, but still): -Can you imagine yourself in a relationship with a man? What about a woman? -When thinking about sex and fantasizing, do you think about men or women? But, my most important advice is: Don't rush it. Take your time, this is about you and yourself. Take a deep breath and relax, you have all the time you want to think about this! We are here to help you during this process if you need! Hugs (*hug*)
