At age 19, I came out as gay to my parents. Now at 33, I am struggling with my sexuality. Between age 19 and now I have dated a ton of men and only a few women. I haven't had a crush on a woman in about 5 or 6 years nor had sex with one in that long. I feel happier when I think of being romantic with men but I don't get erections anymore when looking at naked men even though I find their bodies as well as faces to be sexy. With women, I mostly look at chubby women but I don't get turned on by their face at all, mostly just their breasts or butt. I almost never look at a woman and think "wow she is gorgeous" but I say that about guys all the time. However, I do get an erection when I think about past sexual encounters with women but I don't get erect when thinking about past encounters with men (I don't get erect thinking about guys, period). I think I look at too much porn and I think it is making me even more confused about my sexuality. I only get turned on by women in porn. If someone was to ask me my sexuality, I don't know what I would say. Anyway, have any of you identified as gay in your teens and twenties but later on life you found out you really are bi and had to come out to people in your life all over again?
