I'm 23, not had a girlfriend for over 5 years. I have recently 'fancied' a couple of girls, but I just never pushed enough to make anything happen. It's almost like I didn't care... but in my mind I want to be with someone and have kids! I even went crazy for a girl at school, but she said no. I felt ridiculously attracted to her back then, but never feel like exactly like this with any girl I see now. I have found myself, while growing up being curious about guys too (same time) As years have gone on, I have found I look at straight porn a lot less. I sometimes feel aroused by seeing a naked man, or the thought of being with one. I have never tried anything with a man, but feel repulsed by the thought of anal stuff but if I watch that porn, it gets me aroused. About a year ago, because of this, I thought yes - I'd better come out and do something. I am gay. But then waking up the next day I'd feel different and think - 'I must get a girlfriend'. It's just got to stop. All my friends believe I am straight, seen girls on my ****** etc. So, I really don't want word going out that I am dating guys too. I can look at girls and think they're hot, but not like my friends describe them if that makes sense. At the moment, I keep swiping between women and men on ******, changing the setting. Then, when I match with a man, I unmatch it straight away. Maybe I am gay... Or even bisexual... Or STRAIGHT!? I just don't want to say I am, regret it and never have the chance to do anything to roll back time and realise what I like. :dry: Will I feel better coming out, and having the confidence to like and do what I like? Thanks for your help all
I wouldn't say you're gay, but you're probably not straight either. I would say Bi, but you should consider looking into the different sexualities more. It's not just gay straight and bi. There are a lot. If you feel the need to come out, it would be easier to come out as bi than gay, since you're still uncertain. But you don't have to come out. Sometimes it's better to wait.
Thank you for your reply on this. I appreciate it. I tried something today with a man actually, it was weird. He said he had GFs in the past but not at the moment. I did kind of like it, although it made me feel a bit dirty afterwards as it wasn't love. I think this is the start of me realising who I am.
As Linus said, there are tons of different orientations. You can also be more attracted to one gender than the other, as might be your case. 50/50 bisexuals are pretty rare.
Sounds like you're taking the necessary steps to figure this out. Stay safe, don't worry to much about the label.
You could be straight with gay tendencies or vice versa. Or bisexual. The world is your oyster! Good luck
