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Sexually attracted/emotionally attracted/not attracted???

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Caecilian65, Jan 15, 2016.

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  1. Caecilian65

    Caecilian65
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    Hi,

    Recently, I have been trying to get myself out there and meet people. Maybe a bad idea. I am noticing now I am really confused about sexual and emotional attraction.

    It all sounds pretty simple but in practice I am finding this hard. Like some people I really like the look of and chat to them online but don't know if that is just because I'm feeling sexual at the time. Does that make sense?

    Other times/days I feel like I have no sexual attraction to anything at all. Whether that's due to stress. I do get anxious about this or something else I don't know?

    Is there an easy self-quiz I can ask myself to sort all this out? I want to meet people but feel this is holding me back.

    Hope it's not in the wrong spot.

    Thanks :slight_smile:

    Caecilian65
     
    #1 Caecilian65, Jan 15, 2016
  2. Chip

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    Hi. Likely as not what you are experiencing is the normal ups and downs of daily life with added complications from the anxiety, which has, as one of its side effects, a decrease in sexual attraction.

    My best suggestion is to toss the idea of a separation between sexual and Romantic attraction, as there's no credible evidence to support that idea and it usually just ends up confusing people.

    As you settle into a more comfortable situation with less anxiety, I think you will find that your arousal/attraction will normalize.
     
    #2 Chip, Jan 15, 2016
  3. Billy the kid

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    That sounds like great advice from Chip, I agree wholeheartedly. Just give it time you'll figure it out.
     
    #3 Billy the kid, Jan 17, 2016
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