Just wanna know who I am??

First off I'd like to point out that there are quite a few straight women who do get turned on by other women, and that doesn't necessarily make them a lesbian. When people pose questions like this I always tell them to pose questions onto themselves.

Ask yourself:

- Can I see myself dating a woman?
- Can I see myself having sex with a woman?
- How do these ideas make you feel? Good? Not good in the way it's just not your thing?
- Is this just fantasies in my head or can I actually do this?
- Do I think guys or girls are hotter?
- Do I like the idea of being with men or women better, or both equally the same?
- If you can see yourself being with a woman, why does this idea appeal to you?
- If you like women better than men, why do you think they're more appealing?
- If you think girls are hotter, are you just thinking this because they're the same gender and you're just really appreciating them as another female, or is it more intimate than that?

From what you said in this though, you might not be a lesbian. Of course only you can decide this in the end, but if you're not romantically attracted and not sexually attracted as in seeing yourself to engage in sex with them, then it could just simply being aroused or a fantasy. That's normal and okay. However, some people can be with the same sex sexually, but never want to have relationships. It just depends on what degree you get turned on and attracted to women.

If I had more information I could possibly give you more definite answer, but if you are in denial, the first step would be to acknowledge that and then accept the possibility even if you're just curious or questioning. Maybe try checking girls out and see how that affects you. Do you like that? Do you think they're beautiful because you want to be like them or something else?

If nothing else, you can just always try watching strictly lesbian porn and see how turned on you get with that. Do you like it better than straight porn? Can you see yourself doing that with another woman or her doing that with you?

It's really just placing yourself into scenarios and figuring out how you believe you'll react, but be careful not to mistake insecurities and nervousness with 'No way, I won't do that/ can't do that / don't think I can do that'. Also, you can think about what it'd be like for you to date another girl. How does that idea sound to you? Okay? Meh? Boring?

It just takes some thinking and processing, and in some instances, a lot of patience and time.

Best wishes!

 

Hi there, howtosavealife. I have a little advice to give you. First, though, I would like to say that I'm just saying this with your own best interests in mind.
You make these posts here regularly, saying very much the same thing every time. And it does sound to me like you are mostly straight, with a bit of attraction toward women, like you describe yourself. Straight girls can be aroused by women - "straight" doesn't mean 100% heterosexual; it means predominantly into the opposite sex. It's just a label.

You seem to have a lot of anxiety, am I correct? It seems to me like you are obsessing over this a lot. I think you could benefit from seeing a therapist and getting to the bottom of why you are obsessing about this so much.

Best wishes