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Stressing

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jhon1, Feb 14, 2016.

  1. Jhon1

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    Since the age of 12-13 I found men attractive then in high school I started to get stronger feelings for them I had crushed in most of the male teachers and some one these guys who I would never talk to because I was shy. Now I'm older I've been having these thoughts about women sexually and I don't like it (can you find women attractive even though your gay?) And these thoughts are doing my head in because I don't get why I'm thinking like this because men are what I like but these thoughts are messing with the way I look at them and I can't even have sexual fantasies anymore because its me with a guy then all if a sudden its s girl and it puts me off and i think what if wome got me hard and i dont eant tp change or are these thoughts telling me to change because I don't want to change
     
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    Yes you can be gay and find women attractive. Human sexuality is complex - there's something called the Kinsey scale which shows us that people are seldom 100% gay or 100% straight. Most people are somewhere along the spectrum. But most people also have a very strong preference so they often don't deviate from their sexuality. I'm about 90% gay (Kinsey 5; 6 is 100% gay). I have a very strong preference for guys, but does that mean I can't or won't be turned on by women? Nope.

    Don't let yourself be constrained by labels. Let your attractions happen naturally. If you find a few women attractive, so be it. It's why some people choose the catch-all label of pansexual. Labels can confuse the shit out of you because you get too caught up in "if I'm gay it means I can only like guys." Human sexuality usually doesn't work that way.
     
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    Thanks so much for your help I did the Kinsey scale test and I got a 6