Finally just got a prostitute and completely unable to perform when convinced I would

Has anybody actually found that they have been completely unable to perform with women at one stage of the their life only to move onto another stage or find a specific member of the opposite sex with whom they've been able to have satisfying sex?

Iv'e never been able to perform with a women in real life. I know porn is a bad indicator in fact I think porn has contributed massively to the confusion that I've faced. Despite acknowledging the fact that its a bad indicator it's impossible to ignore the fact that I'd often choose (even before questioning) lesbian porn. Whilst I've never been into gay porn there's no denying that I was very much into the dude just as much if not more than the girls. But On the street and in the media, I would only notice females. I would only think about females and id think about them constantly. Like its hardwired into me. After literally a couple of years fighting my porn addiction i finally succeeded and have been over 3 months without it. I felt it had brought some clarity. I masturbate once weekly and use just my imagination. I find it just as easy and just as satisfying to think of either gender. Some days one will be in my head more than the other and visa versa but regardless, I could always choose between the two and once I'm going I could be equally satisfied.

So with my new found clarity. Having given up porn and at the same time drugs (which I had some struggles with pretty much since I started questioning 17 months ago) i felt more confident than ever that I was bisexual. Every time I've tried to have sex in the past, I've been really drunk, nervous due to past failed attempts, addicted to porn (masturbating hours daily to very hardcore porn - never gonna help real life performance) and its always been with a random girl with whom I've had no connection. For the first time ever I've overcome all of those problems. I got a prostitute and couldn't perform at all. Not even in the slightest. I was nervous, not shaking sweating nervous just the kind of nervous you'd expect visiting your first prostitute.

I must admit, I can masturbate to the thought of just a naked women and imagine standard 'vanilla' sex and be satisfied but I cant imagine that would hold much long term interest for me, even if she was gorgeous. I'd be into kinky stuff, none of which were on offer with the prostitute. In fact very little that I would be into was on offer. But either way, I was incredibly horny before and after the visit. Even if I am gay, or a kinsey 5 or whatever, I would have expected to be able to perform at least to some degree.

What do you guys think, was todays failure to perform that last piece of evidence I need to confirm I'm gay rather than bisexual or somewhere closer to bisexual on the spectrum? I'm thinking that perhaps it was.

Just a final note - I've never done anything with a guy. It's next on the list and I would imagine it will happen very soon.