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not feeling very bi.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Theshreks, Feb 20, 2016.

  1. Theshreks

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    I know if you're bi you can switch back and forth between the two. I started college last month and i'm don't feel really bi. like before i started i was into guys but now that i'm in college all i see are girls. i'm not even thinking about the guys. will my attraction come back or will i just bounce back and forth or is this kinda it?
     
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    I definitely think is possible you'll flip between "phases" of preferring one over the other. That's happened to me.
     
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    I agree with the previous answer, also because It happened to me as well.
    During an entire year I had eyes only for girls and now I think I'm having a couple of crushes on two guys. It seems it depends on the period, so...
    Yes: if you feel a sexual attraction for both genders indiscriminately, you might bounce "back and forth".
     
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    Do you really think anybody here is going to be able to answer this for you?

    Wait and see, hon. And in the meantime, there's no reason to stress about it.
     
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    haha yeah i don't know why i asked that now that think about it.
     
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    I'm guessing that you raised the question because you wanted other bisexuals to share their experience with shifting gender preferences. This was a good question to help you gain insights into your own situation, i.e., is the shift to noticing women exclusively at college typical/normal for bisexuals? The feedback so far is that it's within the normal range of experience for bisexuals since one's gender preference can change over time.

    I agree with biAnnika that ultimately time will tell if your attraction to guys makes a reappearance. That said, my guess is that it will since you identify as bisexual based on discussion in other threads, and I don't see this data point as evidence that you are not bisexual.
     
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    Yeah i was wondering if anyone could help me. if they've had similar experiences or not.
     
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    It happens to most bi peeps I know of. Right now I'm usually not very into girls, for example, but it does happen. Plus, it's possible there could be things like fear of homophobia in the way of your attractions as well.
     
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    I hadn't thought of that actually.
     
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    I notice my quick switch point when single. The sexuality with a partner I'm with I've been faithful and comfortable with. I still notice that one or the other is cute or attractive. The mind of the person is my turn on point.
     
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    I don't flip like some people do, but when I really like someone, I'm all focussed on them, that one person, whether they are male or female, so of course I do feel more bi when liking a girl and less so when liking a guy.

    I don't start fancying lots of girls or lots of guys like some people do though, but I do feel like pushing away my bi side when I'm crushing on a guy, but I think that is the way I have always suppressed it, by focussing on the guys more, and not wanting to face the underlying attraction to girls.
     
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    I'm not sure if I flip or if its just cos I'm in a girls' school why all I can think about is girls.
     
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    My friend at school was actually saying this today. He said that he didn't feel Bi anymore. Remember sexuality is fluid, you can always flip between genders whenever you want to. You decide who you are attracted to, not a label.