Strong doubts about my sexual orientation

Well, I would be attracted to female bodies until the age of 8. When I saw a male body nude, the feeling was like changing and I started to look more to guys than girls. Later I was not interested in women again. It means I turned out as gay? i don't think so. It was, my own interest, the same as straight people interested in the opposite sex.

You know, sometimes you want chocolate, other times, strawberries. You may realize that sexuality is more than "gay" "straight" thing. You don't need to figure out why do you feel like this, you just need to do what makes YOU happy at that moment. Don't be afraid to do what you want and also don't do what you don't want to do, simple. Also, you entire life you've been into girls, and you just discovered that thing. It takes time to understand what you really like.

 

Hey man, I am bi. I feel for you because I it was incredibly hard and difficult for myself to find an identity. I new I wasn't gay because I enjoyed having sex with women and I also knew I wasn't entirely straight either because I enjoyed some gay porn and even a few guys I found attractive walking around. This indecision and lack of identity drove me to some depression among other things. Truthfully though, and this gonna be hard to hear. But, for a few weeks or so don't label anything. Just start to tune into what starts catching your eye in real life. Or what you start thinking about throughout the day. Pay attention to it. And if the curiosity still remains, or you want to experiment go right ahead. You seem like a pretty open minded guy with a very logical mind set. The only problem is sexuality and relationships are not so logical haha. I found out the hard way.

So my advice is do what you want and let your intuition and action tell you what you are before you even set out to identify yourself. You maybe just curious and find that relations with a man are not as hot as you pictured in your mind. Or they might meet expectations.

The way I look at my own sexuality is that if I find someone attractive I find them attractive. Regardless if they are man or woman. Just enjoy yourself and the people around you openly and don't worry about it until the experience comes along.

Also if this helps, I am sexually fluid. Meaning I go from liking women a lot and the liking men a lot and everything in between. Which also made it very difficult to get a handle on my own personal identity, until I just said fuck it. If it is, it is. If it isn't then it isn't.

Good Luck to you Man! Try not to think about it too much

 

Not necessarily, we grow as people and continue to develop. It is not strange to go through new, for lack of better words, fetishes. Sometimes just the idea of something different or possibly even forbidden can make the attraction that much better. For example the idea of someone who is bi being more attractive to you. That person's physical features are the same but the fact that it is rare and can possibly open doors to new experiences makes it more attractive. People get bored, and seek out newer exciting things.

And again, it is possible you could be sexually fluid. Which is slightly frustrating but sometimes you just have to make do.

For example, me being sexually fluid. Sometimes I loose attraction to my boyfriend and are fantasizing constantly about woman. Especially titties considering he has none haha. Which can put excess stress on a relationship but hopefully we encounter people who understand and have some form of sympathy.

And I know some gay guys who enjoyed pussy until they experienced gay sex and realized that it was significantly better than anything they have experienced.

Sexuality is a tough one, and sorry if I am the only one answering your questions as I have only experiences with what I encountered or friends have encountered.

Hope this helps a little bit man, and good luck. We cannot give you any answers to your own identity only you can do that. We can only give you some sort of direction to go or guide for you to figure it out yourself. It is a struggle but you are not alone. Many of us struggled for a long time I know I have. So you are in good company

 

Well, it looks like you have to do a lot of thinking. The religious part seems to weigh very heavily from what I have read. But, then again there are a lot of homosexual religious people not saying you are one of them as you are still figuring yourself out. My boyfriend for example is religious and Christian but he has his own beliefs. I am an atheist so I have no religious conflicts as I see a lot of contradictions in many doctrines so I cannot relate to your feelings in this area. I suggest do some hard thinking with an open mind which is very difficult but I think sometimes you need to break a few walls in order to give some more space to your thoughts. Truly and personally analyze your deep convictions and why you have them as well your strengths, weaknesses and areas of comfort and uncomfortable alike. Hopefully they will lead you to your own answers.

I will leave you with this quote that I related to when doing my own thinking. It is going to get tough, very tough, but after all that struggle and incredible freedom is achieved.

"It has always been an arduous path for the individual to supersede the tribe. If you shall take it, you will meet moments of loneliness and at times be frightened. But, there is no price that is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."