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First Gay Experience = Not so good

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by nowherefast, Mar 6, 2016.

  1. nowherefast

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    I was just wondering... do you think that if my first gay experience didn't turn out good that I may not be bisexual after all? I really enjoyed what we did, I just couldn't reach orgasm. Has anyone ever experienced this??
     
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    I think if you enjoyed everything else about the experience you don't have to worry. Orgasms aren't guaranteed. Sometimes you do, sometimes you don't.
     
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    It's common to have difficulty reaching orgasm your first time (or even first few times. Orgasm is a combination of physical, mental, and emotional factors and in most cases, all have to be aligned for it to happen. So if you were nervous or unsure or anxious -- even if consciously you were into it -- that could interfere with the ability to reach orgasm.

    If you enjoyed yourself and were into it, I think it's safe to say you're not straight :slight_smile: