Aroused but not attracted? Don't know my sexual orientation anymore.

I relate to this a lot in some ways and it is/was confusing to me too. Personally, I think that arousal doesn't always mean something and that if you don't feel like you're attracted to guys then you shouldn't worry about it. Your body responding to something doesn't have to mean you're attracted to it is what I'm trying to say. I feel like if you don't want to date guys or be with guys, and the thought is gross for you, then you don't have to be open to that or include that in what you call yourself. And you don't have to call yourself bi if you don't want to. It's up to you what your label is and it's something that can take a while to figure out. I think that we get very hung up on this idea of innate sexuality correlating with arousal etc, but if you feel like you don't desire anything with guys then you probably don't. You could try mentally using the label of bisexual to yourself and seeing how it feels, though. If it feels wrong, and lesbian feels better, then you could stick to that if you wanted to. And you could stay with bi if it did end up feeling right, etc. I feel like in some ways labels are a way of broadcasting what we want and are interested in, and that sexuality can be complicated. In the end, they don't matter as much as the way we feel does, and no labels you use for yourself have to be set in stone. If any of that makes sense.

This post might not have been super helpful, but I thought I'd reply since I relate to how you're feeling and even me saying that might make you feel better in some way, as it usually does for me.

(Also, I have seen lesbians on here and other websites say they enjoy watching gay porn. I don't think it's weird at all for someone to be interested in it, regardless of their sexuality. Porn you engage in doesn't have to indicate anything.)

 

I have this exact same problem only reverse it. It's cause me a lot of confusion and distress.

 

Yeah, this sort of predicament is part of why I was saying I was bisexual for quite a while but in general, it felt a bit wrong after a while. There are so many aspects to this sort of thing that you just have to simply think - who do you fall in love with and who do you want to spend your life dating? If its girls then lesbian in just a closer fit. I think you're most certainly a lesbian. For me, I don't really think the idea of having sex with guys is gross, it just is not something I desire, so this keeps me on the fence a lot, like I feel that the right guy could actually make me desire him, but I'm not too sure.