Hi Everyone, A bit of backstory before I get to my question (I'll try to keep it short!): I am 25 and I didn't start questioning my sexuality until my early 20's. It's been a very slow process because I tend to go through phases of working to figuring it out and then avoiding it. It is confusing because I am able to fantasize (without porn) about both men and women and get turned on. I have had sex with a man and enjoyed it, but I have tried kissing a handful of guys and not enjoyed it at all; sexually it mainly revolves around their genitals. On the other side I really enjoy kissing women (from head to toe), cuddling, and sex. I get turned on almost immediately after kissing girls whereas kissing a guy almost turns me off. I have also thought about what it would be like to live a life with both a man and a woman, but to be honest I will have to put more thought into it. Now, even though I have been exploring sexually with men, I have found myself wanting to talk to women for the purpose of dating. My question is: is it fine to try and date women even though I am unsure of my sexuality? My fear is that I would be leading them on to satisfy my own insecurities and to make the "safe" play. At the same time I feel the urge to make a woman happy and to feel the love of a woman. Maybe I could feel this with a guy though and I just haven't reached that stage or found the right guy to shed more light on any hidden feelings I may have. I really appreciate any thoughts or experiences you all may have. Thanks in advance .
There are many people who are sexually attracted to one sex but romantically attracted to the other. It sounds a bit like you might be bisexual but heteroromantic. Then again, like you said, it could be you just haven't found the right guy. I wouldn't let this hold you back from dating a woman, however. It might be harder to figure things out if you don't date, rather. Relationships and who you date can help you figure out yourself. So I would try to find yourself a date. (If you feel up to it, that is.) If it goes well, then that's great. If it doesn't feel right, then tell them, and break things off before they get too attached. Best of luck.
Thanks Linus, that gives me some comfort in at least giving it a shot. I will see where this takes me.
