I don't even know my sexuality anymore:bang:!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I might be a lesbian. For a long time I've identified as bi, but now I don't know! I don't feel any attraction toward boys anymore! It's hard enough being bi at a school full of homophobes, but my new feelings are making me confused!!! I used to "like" guys, but I never really got turned on by them or anything. I've only ever felt sexualy atracted towards other girls! I'm just so confused!!!!!!!!!!!! :help:
You sound a lot like me. I tried to be into girls. I "liked" them, but I never felt to urge to want to really have sexwith a woman. I never really Felt "it" - something always felt off. There was never that spark. With guys there always was, no matter how hard I fought it and tried to repress it. You very well would be could be gay and this might be your true sexualitycoming to the surface. Or you could be bi and just be in a phase. Many of my bi friends go through these feelings. I would give it time. You're still young & your sexuality can take time to grow into and get used to. When you have more attractions under your belt, your sexuality will become more clear. In my case I didn't know until I was about 23. Some people know when they're 8.
I went through a similar thing, i always tried to like guys but it never felt right and i just never felt attracted to them. You could just be going through sort of phase or you could actually be lesbian and these are your feelings/sexuality coming to the surface. everything will eventually work out and it will all make sense, but in the meantime try not to stress or overthink it although it's easy to do
It's normal to go through phases where you prefer only one sex/gender over the other for a while and want to do anything with the other. You could try looking up some videos on Youtube about bisexuality as some youtubers love to discuss these problems. I would recommend TheNotAdam's (RJ Aguiar) Ask A Bi Guy mini-series, especially his one called Ask A Bi Girl with Ava who collabs with him. It's awesome and it's helped me a lot even though I'm still going through a lot of doubts myself right now. Hopefully RJ and Ava (and others) could give you some insight.
I have gone through phases of being strongly attracted to a specific gender. One thing that many people (including those in the LGBT community) don't realize is how fluid sexuality is/can be. I wouldn't worry about labeling yourself too much. If over a long period of time you find the attraction to men to be non-existent you may choose that it is best to label yourself as a lesbian. It's nothing that you need to be worried about... Go with what you feel describes you best. (I originally came out as Bi to a couple friends, but have since then realized that I can be attracted to any gender. So I can empathize with thinking you have your sexuality/label figured out and then realize it might not be what you thought it was) Just be yourself and enjoy this crazy thing called life. (*hug*)
For me as soon as I started identifying as bi I lost all interest in guys. For me I was interested in guys in porn, and I had crushes on guys that seemed cool in real life, but I never really felt the total attraction that I've felt for girls. The mix of loving their company and feeling an actual sensual pull towards them. So once I started identifying as bi, I just felt so much more excited about the girls that... I feel little for guys any more. It's been like a gradual trajectory over to the homo side of the kinsey scale. I still appreciate guy's looks objectively and I still can get off to guys in porn (though it makes me feel a bit weird tbh) but I don't wanna be with them, and I couldn't even pick out an ideal male celebrity crush for you. For a while I was dreaming about girlfriends but I still felt happy to have sex with a guy... now I don't see why I'd want to do that. So I've started trying out the word lesbian. In reality I think I may be kinsey 4 and on a girl kick I dunno. I've come out to my friend as bisexual but I'm thinking of myself mostly as gay and he calls me a lesbian anyway. I'm just trying to let it go. Just let my sexuality be a background thing. Let labels not matter haha.
Thanks guys/girls/whatever-you-want-to-identify-as!!! That made me feel alot better! H2O, I'll try that out, thanks!!!!!
I totally know how you feel I went through all that. But let me tell you one thing. At the end of the day the most important thing is for you to be happy doesnt matter what everybody else thinks. It is hard to be different I know. But you have to love yourself as you are and accept yourself. When you get to that point nothing else would be important. Trust me
You don't have to push yourself to like people you don't feel attracted to. There is not rush in knowing who you really are, take your time and enjoy every moment.
