I have never reached out to the LGBT community before, but I have reached a point in my life that I need your help and advice. I am married to a wonderful women so this makes my questions I have for you even harder for me to admit. There was a time in my life that I found women exciting and I was very attracted to them. However, during this same time period my sexual fantasies were only about same sex encounters. When I masterbated it was only to same sex fantasies. I always hide these desires and have staid faithful to my wife. Lately I have to think about having sex with another man to reach orgasome when having sex with her. I did an experiment last night, I put two pictures side by side, one was a very attractive naked women and the other was a hot naked man. I would look at each of them to see what made me sexually excited. While I appreciated the female body I did not get arroused, but the moment I looked at the guy, I was turned on. His body just did it for me. When I watch gay porn I really love watching two guys kissing and touching each other in a loving way. I am afraid to take these desires to the next level and experiment with another man because I don't want to destroy my marriage and family. At the same time I don't want to live my life without knowing what it's like to make love to another man. Based on what I have said, would you consider me to be gay, and what do I do?? I am very torn and it's causing me to have allot pent up desire that o can't satisfy. Thank you and I look forward to your advice and consultation.
All: I noticed I have received no advice from the community. I have looked around and really have come to the conclusion that I am in fact a gay man. I find men sexually astrictive. I will need to take some time to explore my feelings honestly and get comfortable with myself before I move forward and explain my feeling to those closest to me. At some point I want to search out a relationship with another man and experience the lifestyle first hand.
Hi. Im not sure how much advice I have for you because I don't know if there is any right or good answer. It sounds like you have figured yourself out, and that is the first step. I think no matter what you do from here people are going to get hurt. The thing to do is to try and minimize that as much as possible. Behave in an honorable way and remember to have compassion for those involved. And I wouldn't recommend cheating or doing dishonest things. That would only be more hurtful. So I don't have the answer as to exactly how you should proceed, but keep those things in mind. And also don't be too hard on yourself either, this isn't easy for you either. Have some compassion for yourself as well
John Thank you I will not do anything to hurt my honor or hurt the ones I love and know me. With that said I have really felt a since of relife just telling people in this forum that I AM GAY. That feels so good and freeing. I want to start living my life as the real me. With that said, I will deliver this news with the same compassion that I hope I want in return. I am not ready for the hurt that I know my family will feel but I must start thinking about it and find a way to tell them. I am living a lie and my wife deserves a man that can truly love her emotionally and physically. I also want to have a chance to love another man and be loved in the same way. Thank you for the advice and love the feedback.
Well for me... as soon as I accepted that I was gay and I became comfortable with it I started visualizing myself in a relationship with another women. At that point my marriage was over. It was just a matter of when.
Outofzcloset: I have visualized this for awhile now... Your right I have to end this and accept myself for who I am.
