Hi! As you could imagine, I'm here to question my sexuality with you. I've already written in this forum, but with an unneutral point of view that influenced the readers to think I was straight; now I'll try to keep it short, neutral, and unbiased. I feel sexually attracted at boys a lot (I get aroused when I see a guy in underwear/naked very easily); the sexual attraction to girls is weaker, but still (I think) present. Like, I enjoy jerking off thinking of both girls and guys, and I remember getting boners at beautiful girls and whatsoever, though "gay hard ons" are more frequent. I have evidence of being attracted both to girls and guys when I was younger (a child); thus, I had romantic feelings toward girls, but not to guys (like, never wanted to develop a romantic relationship with a male friend of mine). I often think "gosh I still have no girlfriend I'm such a loser". I think I might be bisexual somewhat-leaning, what freaks me out is that sexual attraction toward guys is more frequent, whilst with girls it's more strained, but still natural, since I really enjoy jerking off at girls and lesbian erotic stories (but gay porn catches me more than lesbian porn). I'd like to label myself because I've been questioning since I was 12 and I'd like to take action, stop doubting and have a final answer. Thanks for your surely essential help!
I knew before twelve I thought both were cute. I never had the girls had cooties stage. I've had relationships both ways. I like and am attracted to a mind. The part between the legs doesn't matter at all. I don't hang up on needing a definite label. Every mind and desire is different. When single and watching porn for me anyway I float some. More towards male though. Gay, male masturbating, or straight where they are both gorgeous.
Got it! Yeah, I feel like I like both males and females, maybe the romantic feeling toward girls is stronger, as the sexual desire toward them is weaker What freaks me out is that the questioning phase seems never ending x( like, I don't feel straight, but I don't feel totally gay as well, and everything is so freaking confusing
If I may ask, how old are you? Do you have any experience with dating, romance or crushes? You are describing a lot of thoughts about attraction. Personally I think that the thoughts about people from a certain gender, and the actual experience is quite different. And with experience I don´t just mean sex. I mean that you get a feeling that catches you by surprise, is indescribable, makes you want to spend more time with them but you cannot quite explain why. When I did not have any experience with guys or girls, this type of feeling did make me wonder whether I was gay or bi. And once you´ve had that thought, it´s hard to let go, but it´s distracting you from life and it shouldn´t matter. Because really, it doesn´t matter whether you feel certain things for guys, girls, both or neither. The biggest piece of advice I can give you is that you should not worry about labels and just experience. Don´t watch porn thinking ´I´m watching men thus I am at least bi or gay´, When you are with a girl and you are taken aback by how attractive she is, don´t think ´I am at least bisexual or straight´, just enjoy the feeling, perhaps it stays, perhaps not. It will take some time, accept this, and you will figure it out later and once you do, you´ll know! Since you asked ´do you think I´m gay or bi´ I´ll answer, but this is based on my own experience and it is quite useless. The story you wrote down makes me think you might be either bisexual or gay. But that´s based on my own experience and I am gay. So I can´t really speak out of a bisexual stance. Good luck, don´t worry!
Hi Laura! Nice to meet you, you seem very nice! ^-^ I had lots of crushes with girls, and none with boys, especially when I was around 13 (now I'm 17). Like, there was this girl called Sarah and as you suggested I got that weird feeling that made me want to spend more time with her, and had butterflies in the stomach, that feeling of floating on a cloud, the heart beating ... Gosh that was awesome! It never happened with boys, like, I've always watched them as buddies to hang out with. What makes me wonder about my sexuality basically is that I get more hard-ons with boys rather than with girls (that still happens though). Thanks for your help!
