Since I was young I always had been sexually attracted to girls, had girl crushes, etc. However later, i discovered that I did get turned on by gay thoughts when I was curious about it, but I pushed it under the rug because I stillgot turned on by girls at that point. But only 2 days ago, I am no longer aroused by girls anymore, only guys. Have I turned gay, have I discovered myself, or is this a phase? Because it feels really uncomfortable.
Well...it's natural to feel this way. From the sounds of it, you've never exposed yourself to "gayness". It's quite possible that you are bisexual, or maybe bi-curious for the moment. My advice?: Go for it. Try it out. Kiss a guy, watch some gay porn, watch a gay themed movie, have a look at some male models, then some female models and ask yourself honestly how each makes you feel. Examine your friends. Female friends vs Guy friends. Can you imagine a romantic relationship with one, or perhaps many of them? If you really are no longer aroused by girls, it doesn't NECESSARILY mean that your straight side has died, but it's possible that now your curiosity about this potential you pushed under the rug is dominating your mind. I'd advise more and ever to explore it. Don't push it under the rug again, take a look and see what you find. If you're in a situation where gay porn/pictures of models on your PC might arouse suspicion, just go to the cinema/TV and flick through the channels asking yourself how the attractive men make you feel.
Ok so I tried watching both straight porn and gay porn to see the effects. I got more aroused by the gay porn, as in a harder erection and all. When i looked at the straight porn, however, I did get an erection but not as hard as the gay porn. As for being romantically attracted, I feel almost no romantic attraction to guys. I have always imagined, even now, of having romantic relationships with women. Even if the guys are super attractive, I seem to be only getting aroused by them sexually rather than romantically.
You do sound bi to me. Personally, I Typically(this last month or so aside) have pretty much the same feelings towards members of both sexes that I find attractive, but bisexuality IS NOT one size fits all. You only need an attraction to both sexes to fit the definition, that doesn't mean you need to be attracted in the same way. For instance, I currently am more romantically(as well as sexually) attracted to other men. I AM still romantically attracted to women, but more sexually than anything. That being said, if a great woman came along tomorrow and we both like each other, I would still give a relationship a shot.
@clustergazelle I guess i could be, but this doesn't feel normal at all, I can't think clearly because of it, I feel like throwing up 90% of the time, and the only thing that feels good is my penis. Now, today I have changed again. I feel no romantic attraction to either sex. However when I think of attractive women, I feel as if I am trying to get an erection but I cant, but when I think of attractive men I get a hard but uncomfortable erection. None of this at all feels normal, sometimes I get chilling feelings as well, as if I'm going to die.
Okay, breathe deeply and try to calm down. All of this is okay, and all of this is normal. People feel all sorts of weird things when they're questioning their sexuality, and attraction behaves in all sorts of weird ways. Try not to panic about it. Your sexuality will sort itself out. My experience as a bi person is that my attraction shifts. Some days I'm much more attracted to men, some days I'm much more attracted to women, and some days I'm just really not attracted to anyone (that's not part of being bi; that's just a normal part of any person's sexuality; sometimes you're just not in the right headspace to be feeling attraction, whether it's because you're stressed or you just don't happen to be feeling it that day). Shifting attraction is really common for bi people. The first thing to do is get comfortable with the idea of not knowing your sexuality for a little while. I know it's frustrating to not know and to not have labels, but try to think about whether or not it really matters. Will you go about your daily routine differently if you're gay than if you're bisexual? Will your activities today, tomorrow, and the next day in any way be affected by the specific label you have for your sexuality? Right now, you're a person who's attracted to guys and might also be attracted to girls. That needs to be good enough for the time being. The next step is to wait a while and see how you feel. You're not gonna solve this puzzle right away because there's no way for you to know right now if your attraction to women will return. You might be gay, or you might be bisexual and going through a period of not experiencing attraction to women. Give yourself some time to figure out whether you do still feel attraction to women, and try not to worry too much about your attraction because your feelings of discomfort and anxiety will affect your feelings of attraction. You're going to figure this out; just give it some time.
Thank you, I will try not to concentrate on my sexuality for now as I am busy with a lot of things. Hopefully that will let my brain figure it out on its own without my interference.
