Hey guys So recently I have had a discussion with my friend about my sexuality and I was sooo confused. I really need your help please. I mean I don't want to label myself, I even got a tattoo saying "to define is to limit", but on the other hand I kind of feel that I would like to know how to classify myself... So basically what's going on: I was brought up in the "you are straight" atmosphere. And that's fine. But when I was 16 I watched a gay porn I liked it etc. At the age of 18, I met a girl, I fall in love with her, we had the most amazing sex in the world (that's the first person I had sex with. But after 6 months, I moved to the UK to study here. We still stay in the touch and I do love her. Because I have a high sex-drive I was thinking what to do but I didn't want to have sex with a woman as in my mind, that would have been cheating. So I met a few times "for a blowjob" with a guy. And it was awesome. The thing is I dislike having anal sex, kissing, cuddling etc. etc. with a man. Also I would never give a bloke a blowjob. But on the other hand I am attracted to men. Men bodies are a big, big turn on for me. Even bigger than female bodies I guess. Nevertheless, I cannot imagine a relationship with a man. I want to be with a woman. So summing up, I am attracted to both genders (with a slight preference towards men), for the past year I had sex (oral) only with men, I can't imagine kissing or cuddling or getting close with a man, the best sex though I have ever had was with a woman, I want to be in a relationship with a woman, for now (call me silly) I can't imagine being with a guy. In one word: what? :/
You sound bisexual to me, with a slight preference for men. If you want a relationship with a woman, that's fine, but if you ever find yourself developing feelings for a guy, then don't let your ideas of what you can or can't imagine limit you. I am a bit iffy on the 'if I have sex with a guy, it's not cheating' thing, but you don't indicate that you and the woman you mention have agreed to be exclusive, so I won't speak to that. My 2c worth, Todd
