1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

I Want Sex Very Badly

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by KorrasamiIsBest, May 14, 2016.

  1. KorrasamiIsBest

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 20, 2015
    Messages:
    55
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    BC
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    All but family
    I try to hold back on posting "I want a girlfriend so badly posts" because I know you guys have heard it over and over again. But lately I am not sure. My whole life I've been a constant reject, and yet I've gotten a number of guy friends interested in me, I just didn't return their feelings. I REALLY want sex with a girl. I've considered hiring an escort just for fooling around, and as badly as I want that, I don't want it to have to come to that. I don't want my first to be an escort. I want my first to be with someone really special. But I have only been turned down by every single girl I've ever crushed on. I have fallen hard for women before. I am attracted to a guy every now and then but ultimately it is a woman I dream of settling down with. I feel like there is something wrong with me, and though I know there is no cut off date for these things I definitely should have experienced SOMETHING by now. I feel like I am not a normal girl. I lack confidence definitely. I am working on it and working on myself. I want sex or just light fooling around but I don't want it to have to come to an escort. I don't know what to do.
     
  2. yuanzi

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2015
    Messages:
    251
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Upstate NY
    I am in the same boat :slight_smile: Don't think I will ever hire an escort though just because I am afraid of the potential stds...

    As for being special, I don't think my first time is gonna be special in any way shape or form. I can't shake the feeling that it is gonna be pity sex if I whine hard enough.:roflmao:
     
  3. quest

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 16, 2016
    Messages:
    6
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Brooklyn, NY
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    It's definitely normal to have these sexual urges, but I don't think you should go around thinking there's something wrong with yourself because there isn't!

    We're on the same grounds here. I have absolutely no sexual experience with a girl but I have very strong wants too..and it definitely doesn't help that I have shitty social anxiety and terrible self confidence. Bad combo. I definitely understand your situation and I wish I could help. The best bet is to really wait it out. You even said it yourself that you want it to be with someone special. Sometimes it's hard to find someone with the same level of attraction in the right moment but I personally believe that, that time will come (pun not intended) Given the fact that you are actively are trying to better yourself says a lot about you. Putting yourself out there increases your chances of finding someone you want to intimately engage with. As for now, the best way is to quell these sexual urges is to do it yourself.
     
  4. caliwoman

    caliwoman Banned

    Joined:
    May 3, 2016
    Messages:
    364
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Los Angeles
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight but curious
    Add me to the list. 34 yo married female here

    I'm ready to just give this up. The three women I've been attracted to in life have broken my heart. Also, I just don't see a woman and become attracted to her, I have to know her. Which means we have to be friends.

    I tried to get a feel for an attractive female I have as friends on Facebook. That went horrible. She thought I was spying on her on behalf of her ex boyfriend and it was like pulling damn teeth. She was very apprehensive of me.

    I'm sexually frustrated and feel like throwing in the dang towel

    I'm only attracted to friends, so far. Am I supposed to be friends with a woman in hopes of cultivating a sexual relationship with them? Ugh that sounds bad.
     
  5. SHACH

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Sep 20, 2015
    Messages:
    949
    Likes Received:
    22
    Location:
    UK
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    All but family
    Yeah this is just facts of life, we don't all get some quick. I did almost get some at a party in February with this girl... But my friend cockblocked me because she thought I was too drunk. Which was entirely true. Thats not the way you wanna do your first time really. Im very horny but patient. I'm going to uni, I'm going to go in there stylish and queer and I'm gonna get some for sure. I shall fake it till I make it with the confidence.
     
  6. KorrasamiIsBest

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 20, 2015
    Messages:
    55
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    BC
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    All but family
    Thanks guys, for now I will just keep doing what I'm doing and wait it out as that's all I can do at the moment. I hope we all find our special someone. (*hug*)
     
  7. Gunsmoke

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 17, 2016
    Messages:
    609
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manchester, United Kingdom
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I'm in the same boat, although I'm personally less interested in sex and more interested in a relationship. If it makes you feel any better, I'm 18 and I've never even kissed anyone before (although I have been in a relationship), whereas the majority of my friends are in long-term relationships or have had sex before or both. You're not alone at all! I'm certain that we will all find that person that we want. Honestly, I think that timing matters too. I don't know about you, but I personally - however much I might like to believe the opposite - am in no state of mind for a relationship at this time, due to *issues* and exam stress.

    There is nothing wrong with you at all. I may have very little experience, but I think most people would agree that it's better to stick it out for the right person than to rush it with a "wrong" person. Not that you have to wait, because I understand how annoying that is, but maybe if you opened yourself up to say, dating sites or something? I know that they have a bad reputation but I know a girl in a serious relationship with a boy she met online. Plenty of people use them, for casual sex or for proper relationships or anything.
     
    #7 Gunsmoke, May 15, 2016
    Last edited: May 15, 2016
  8. confusedbubble

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2015
    Messages:
    352
    Likes Received:
    4
    Location:
    Leeds
    At 33 I thought I'd given up and having a partner after my last one and then a crush broke my heart.. Yeh I admit I signed up to a dating site didn't even check I regularly, I was convinced I wasn't wanted by anyone. After trying to flirt with one woman from the site who I went to see I was massively dropped in the middle of a city she just vanished.
    I was about to remove my profile 2 weeks ago when someone selected the like to meet... I was instantly attracted but had to think for a few days if she'd just selected me to see what happened.
    Anyway 3 days later we met up at first I drove to meet her I didn't think she'd meet I thought it was a set up... We've since met 4 times 2 as dates and I'm meeting her tomorrow she's asked if I want to ask her out as she's open but shy I am I'm a shy person but really like her.
    The point is don't go looking for a partner one will find you I know everyone is in a rush for a relationship, but after 5 years since my last relationship and nearly 2 crushing on someone who hurt the hell out of me I've finally found someone without even really looking
     
    #8 confusedbubble, May 15, 2016
    Last edited: May 15, 2016
  9. yuanzi

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2015
    Messages:
    251
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Upstate NY
    confusedbubble, I just want to point out that if everyone sticks to the 'don't go looking for a partner' then nobody will find nobody :slight_smile:

    But seriously I am happy it is finally working out for you! I don't have much success in online dating but maybe I will try again when I move to a bigger city.
     
  10. OutofZCloset

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 30, 2016
    Messages:
    341
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    redlands
    Gender:
    Female
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Yes well I want sex badly too and I'm in a relationship. :slight_smile:

    I've been married for 20 years and I'm lucky if I can get it once a week. As we've gotten older I seem to want it more often than she does. I hate being the one with the high sex drive.