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How long did you stay in the closet?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jmiller85, May 18, 2016.

  1. Jmiller85

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    Curious about this, recently accepted I'm gay, and I'm pretty far in the closet right now. Nobody knows except for guys I've expermented with.
     
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    I knew I was gay when I was very young, around age 10, but it took me a while to accept it. When I was 19 I finally did accept the fact that I was gay and started to have a positive outlook about it/embrace it. I couldn't take the 'white-lying', avoiding conversations, hiding things anymore, and overall just feeling miserable, fake, and alone. At 20 is when I started coming out and never looked back. I've been completely open about it for several years now and it's much better on this side of the door. :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello! Im 20 and Im still in the closet. Ive come out to very few people and honestly I don't plan on coming out anytime soon. My parents don't like homosexual people so I fear that they won't accept me for who I am. I guess time will tell when I end up coming out completely. Plus from what I've heard people say not to rush it so take your time. Also congrats on embracing your true self. :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm in this kind of weird stage where a few people know and it's completely normal to them, but most of my family and friends don't know.
    I want to come out more very soon, especially to my family because I feel terrible hiding my true feelings.
     
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    i was 47 when i came out to me, 48 when i came out to my son and parents, and on FB on 8 May.(!)
     
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    13 years in the closet, lol sounds like I was in prison.

    realized around age 13 didnt tell anyone until this year.
     
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    I had suspicions that I liked girls when I was 14, and I originally came out as bisexual at 15. After coming out as bisexual, I realized that I was gay and came out as a lesbian about 6 months later.
     
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    35 years. Ain't gonna sit in the closet no more ;-)
     
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    Hope I have the courage someday.
     
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    Aw dang, I thought I was setting a record with 36 years in the closet. 1978 was not a good year for a 12 year old to come out. It is going on a year and a half and I feel great.
     
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    Four years.

    You will! (*hug*)
     
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    18 years!!
    I pretty much knew I liked guys since 13 but I let's accept las year.
    I need to come out but up to now I do not fell confortable enough to do!!
     
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    Almost 3 years. Found out I was gay at age 13, came out to myself a year later. I came out to everyone in January (I'm 16 now).
     
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    I hope! Thanks!
     
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    I'm 30 and still in the closet about both my gender identity (which is something I'm probably forever going to be confused about, I want to try taking hormones to see if that helps clarify things) and my sexuality.

    My gender identity doesn't seem to have been much of an issue (although I remember some instances from my childhood) until puberty, and for the past fifteen years or so I've been fairly sure that I'm not cis.

    I think I first really questioned my sexual orientation in my late teens, although with a very low sex drive and lot of introversion, I've no real life experience of sex. I also don't tend to get crushes, which is probably not surprising as I tend to avoid prolonged contact with people I don't know well.
     
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    I started questioning last February and labeled myself as Bisexual, but now I have recently found out that I'm Pansexual!:icon_wink
     
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    Like 1 year for my sexuality to my family. And 1 year and counting for everyone else for my sexuality, and with my gender and everybody.
     
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    Congrats on accepting you're gay (*hug*) It's a very big step.

    Well, I stayed in the closet around 4+ years. For the first half I just really liked a girl and was too scared to tell anyone. The next half, I was actively questioning my sexuality. I didn't tell a single person that I like girls until the end of a very long four years. Everyone assumes I only like guys because of my assigned gender, but that isn't the case. Most of my friends know I like girls now.

    Best of luck coming out!
     
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    So it turns out I am absolute shit at remaining in the closet. I'm so bad at it, I have never really successfully remained closeted for a significant length of time. I blame the fact that I'm very communicative, so if I'm having feelings about something, I talk the people close to me so I can figure it out. And then I figure out that that all meant I'm gay/trans and whelp, they already know everything.

    Even if I wasn't so bad at staying closeted I'd want to be out sooner than later. I don't like feeling like a dirty secret, especially not my own dirty secret. I'm a person, and people need sunlight and air and human recognition. Plus, I've been truly gifted with people who are open and accepting in general, who really care about me, so the motivation to stay in the closet is very low to begin with.
     
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    I'm pretty bad at keeping secrets in general, so I told my friends just over a year I started questioning. I wasn't even completely sure if I was bi at the time but after talking to them about it and doing some thinking afterwards I came to terms with it.

    Only one of my friends knows about my gender confusion so far since she's going through something similar. I wish I could tell more people but I don't even know what I am or if it is a phase or just a fashion thing or if there's even any point to it.