As someone who has never had sex before, what can I expect sex to be like?

Wow, those are a lot of questions! xD

Well, I think you are overthinking this! It's absolutely true that it's nothing like porn or movies at all. Plus, it's different for everyone, so there can't possibly be an accurate representation.

If you have the opportunity and desire to engage in a sexual relation with someone, it doesn't really matter if you are in na emotional and/or romantic relationship with them but, if that is a concern of yours, maybe you should wait. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and whenever you are ready. However, that's not at all mandatory.

Will you become overly attached? Not necessarily.
Is it awkward? Definitly. Sex is awkward, especially if it's your first time. But don't let that stop you, alright? Just find someone you're comfortable with and relax. The awkwardness will go away eventually.
Do you speak to the person while it's happening? Maybe. Some people like it, some don't. Some like romantic lines, some like dirty talking, some just don't like it. If it feels right, do. If it doesn't, don't.

Did I answer all of them? xD

Just relax, don't overthink this or you'll be nervous when it happens. There aren't really any guidelines of what to do, so nothing is really wrong! It'll be alright

 

I think this all depends upon the kind of experience you are looking for. I personally think you're jumping to the end game. For me what makes sex great is the development of the relationship. That starts getting to know the person and developing a sexual attraction to them that is a burning desire. Once you have that passion a lot of these questions would become answered for you.

How would you initiate it? Your burning desire or your partner's would initiate it naturally. When you're longing for someone and they are longing for you who's going to initiate it is not really the problem.

Do you have sex before the relationship starts? Only if its an excort or an on-line hookup.
If you want a really meaningfull experience wait until you really get to know the person.

How is it different than porn? For me it is much more intimate and personal, sweet and passionate.

Do you speak while its happening? that depends....My lips are usually occupied or engaged so I'm not usually doing a whole lot of talking. However, there are times where I need my wife to press a little harder or move a little faster so words like, "harder" or "faster" get moaned out. And there are also times where she is behind me wispering in my ear...that I find really turns me on. So it all depends upon the moment and how comfortable you feel with the person. If your a girl I think it is very important that you do communicate with your partner what you need in order to help you cum. If your partner is open to that communication it gives you the opportunity to take your sex life to a new level and try to different positions or techniques. If you never talk a lot of interesting ideas could be missed.

To me sex has NEVER been awkward...even my first time. I haven't been with a lot of different people so by the time I have sex with someone i know them extremely well and we have great open communication and trust. If I didn't feel that trust, passion, intimacy, and comfort I wouldn't be having sex with them in the first place. I hope that makes sense. If you don't feel comfortable with someone don't have sex with them. Wait until you have an emotional connection to the person and you'll probably enjoy the experience more.

As far as becoming attached to the person...yeah for me sex makes me feel much closer to someone.

 

Up to you. It really doesn't matter at the end, so either way you will be able to find a loving relationship. It just depends with what you are comfortable with. And yea, its okay to try both strategies if you want.

You have to think about it with context. This isn't about how you get someone else to have sex with you. This is about two people who already want to have sex with each other. After that, its usually pretty easy. The hard part for people is how to let them know you want to have sex without creeping them out. Usually flirting, suggestive dates, etc do the trick. Some other people like to be very direct.

Either way, if you have two people that are interested in having sex with each other, then how it gets started rarely matters.

There really is such a variety of people that its hard to predict. It might be mindblowing amzing for you or you might find it "eh" or your first time might be of "we tried, but didn't quite figure it out so next time"

All of the experiences are valid.

The first time, usually. Its hard to to keep thinking of that person over and over again even if you don't get emotionally attached.

If you know the person well before you have sex, then the emotional attachment is easier.

Yes! Its awkward, its funny, its goofy and its messy! Its also a lot of fun

Biggest misconception about sex is that it should be a silent event. While you probably won't be having a full conversation, its important to talk about whats happening.

"Do you like that? Are you comfortable? Do you want to try a position I have in mind? Omg, my leg is cramping. Switch! Is that okay? Let me know when it feels good"


Keep being curious