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Am I Gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by James1299, Jun 2, 2016.

  1. James1299

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    I feel like I have always known I was gay, but can't say for sure. Where I am today, I have little to no attraction to girls anymore. I only can get turned on by seeing a naked man or watching gay porn. I desire men and being with one. Now I have been having crushes and I get sweaty( real sweaty ) when I come across a attractive man. I have no interest in boobs, I couldn't even keep a boner during a blowjob by my ex without thinking of a men giving me one. So am I really Gay or is this a phase?
     
  2. musiclife

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    I feel like most members of the LGBT community go through a time of questioning where they are not sure if what they feel is true or if it is a phase. I know I have and in some ways still am. No one on this site can give you a definite yes or no on whether you are going through a phase or not. It is hard to figure out but it is just something that will take you time to figure out. For me, when the feelings i was having were not going away, i started believing it was not phase. So i say give it some time and really think about it and don't be afraid to experiment a bit with both genders. If you already know what turns you on go after that and see what happens. The only way you can truly discover who you are is by going out, exploring and crossing your own boundaries. Best of luck. :smilewave
     
  3. faustian1

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    Well, from the description you wrote, it's certainly at least a phase, kind of like when water is totally frozen. It usually takes awhile for it to get back into the liquid phase when you heat it up. So I'd say, you're going to take quite a bit of thawing before you become straight again. :icon_bigg
     
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    As basic and cliche it might sound, go with the flow! Don't force yourself to do anything your body rejects and if you feel ready to experiment with a certain gender, just do it.
     
  5. Teach1

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    This made me LOL. In all seriousness, I relate to everything that you typed, OP. I have been married for 17 years to a woman and tried hard to repress those desires for men and have only satisfied them through chatting in gay chat rooms and watching gay porn. Years ago, I had those same desires and tried to convince myself that it was "just a phase" and that the couple of male relationships I had were just "experimenting". I am 42 years old and I still experience the same things you are. Only recently, have I been able to admit to myself that I am, in fact, gay.