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Choosing sex but no partner? Porn is confusing me?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Just Call Me Ky, Jun 2, 2016.

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  1. Just Call Me Ky

    Just Call Me Ky
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    I value honesty and maturity and I would appreciate it if this post was taken seriously. I don't ever talk about porn or self-completing as far as sex goes. And porn does do something for me but I don't really know why because I find it all disgusting and I don't have a desire to have sex. I sometimes think about what it would be like to have sex with a guy or a girl and I am pretty sure I don't want to. If I tried sex I think I would need it to be someone I wouldn't see again because my body isn't the best. If I love a person I don't want them to want sex from me. I wouldn't want the other person to look at my body or want to have oral sex which is hard if I end up with a girl. I don't think I need sex if I can take care of things on my own... I don't think I want to be a virgin all my life though (but don't need to have sex right now at 17). I think I am just very lost and confused and self-conscious. This is an uncomfortable topic for me in so many ways and the only reason I am able to address it is because I won't have to see anyone who replies face to face. I was going to make this anonymous but I am accepting that I have insecurities and flaws that I need to attack head-on. Advice is encouraged, please help. Thanks, -Ky
     
    #1 Just Call Me Ky, Jun 2, 2016
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    Hello there Ky,
    Firstly, remember you are not alone. There will always be people that feel the same as you do. I can empathise with the feeling of being lost and confused, I think many people here can too. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to consider sex too early. If you're not ready, you're not ready and that is just fine. I didn't properly realise my sexuality until early 20s really. I had had feelings since early teens but didn't properly acknowledge them until much later. I think in the long run for me that was harmful because by then I was married with children. It eats away at me sometimes thinking I should have had the courage to admit it to myself earlier. So it's awesome that you have done that now.
    On the subject of labels, again try not to worry about that too much. I don't really like to label myself, I just find it useful for others to explain it to them.
    One day, a penny will drop and it will all make sense :slight_smile:
     
    #2 kypso, Jun 3, 2016
  3. Just Call Me Ky

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    Thank you so much that makes me feel better about everything. If sex comes up I will just be as honest as possible and as far as sexuality I suppose I will just go with the flow. I appreciate your response so much. I feel the same about the labels and I am still confused but I know I'm not straight. Hopefully I will figure it all out soon but for now I am working through it. Thanks again. -Ky
     
    #3 Just Call Me Ky, Jun 3, 2016
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