My husband and I have been together for 15 years and are very close. I have always been very open with him and never thought anything of talking freely about attractions (eg to actors/actresses). Well the other day we were watching a show and I was going on and on about how women's bodies are more attractive than men's (maybe sometimes I don't think sensitively about how my comments come across), and he in all sincerity asked me if I was gay. Of course I sputtered "no!", because I had never thought that. I know I find i'm attracted to people regardless of gender, but I've never labelled my sexual orientation. I mean, is it time for me to just be comfortable with a label of pansexual or what? And why am I obsessing over this? And maybe if i "come out" to him about it he'll be like "ya? I know"
