So I have had a lot of time to think about my sexuality. I am 18 (male) and for the longest time have thought I was bi. At first I planned on never telling anyone, but then college came and I'm out as bi to most of my friends. But that's another story. In any case, with most of my friends I think that if I ended up identifying as gay they would be just as accepting as they have been. But before I come out to my parents I want to figure out truly what I should identify as. I know in the end it's up to me, but I was hoping for some guidance. Basically, I am attracted to both guys and girls, which originally led me to the "bi" label. That being said, I am much more into guys than girls. I almost always find myself checking out guys over girls (but sometimes I do check out a cute girl). I am sexually attracted to both genders and genitalia, but I get more aroused by guys than girls. For that reason I almost solely watch gay porn (possible TMI here...). I have done sexual things with both genders and was turned on in each case. I could see myself ending up with a guy or a girl, but for some reason I think more likely a guy. In any case, I've come out to a lot of people recently but before I go any further I want to make sure I'm using the correct label so as not to mislead people. So some guidance would be great! Thanks!
This works well enough to give people a label. What you are to yourself doesn't really need a label, even though it can help give you some focus. "Bi" covers a huge range, and some people will define it differently than you do. Your parents may have some of the misconceptions about bisexuality that many people have and will need some explanation. Even so, bi seems more accurate, even if you never date a woman in the future. As for what you truly are -- it seem that you're turned on by various things that may or may not be related to your "true" identity/orientation. At 18, there can be a lot going on sexually. Don't analyze too much by the "turned on" factor. Consider who you'd want for a life partner (if you want one), the kind of life you'd want, etc.
Being honest about who you are doesn't necessarily mean that you fit under a label. We are all human and we are unique. Perfectly human. Perhaps you need a sentence to define you instead of a one word label. :goodluck:
