I started the following thread http://emptyclosets.com/forum/family-friends-relationships/214342-should-we-talk-about-kiss.html and then decided to take it easy , step by step . The problem is that i don't know from where to start ? And how on earth would someone figure out if he is gay or bi !! (This is the maisn reaso why i started this new thread here )
It does sound confusing & you seem to be obsessing about your friend, whether he's gay, bi or straight. My suggestions: - try some body contact w your friend, something like putting your hand on his shoulder, rub up against his arm, or shoulders touching. See if he pulls away, or lingers. Our bodies don't lie. If he likes you, & wants to be friends, the body contact will be comfortable, & may last a little longer than you expect. If he is not interested in you, he'll probably pull away. Then you'd just continue the friendship accordingly. It sounds like he has some interest, but is blocked, or afraid. He may be more conflicted than you, less able to be authentic. You have the choice whether to stay with someone who's conflicted, or let him go, in hopes of finding a better relationship. Good luck!
Thank you for your reply , however I'm more concerned to figure out myself first. My fault , i should have sum up the previous thread . Here are some Headlines . -I graduated few weeks ago and being not stressed about study gave me the time to think about my sexuality . -I and a friend kissed and we ended up talking about the kiss then i got a black eye - My mind almost exploded thinking about my sexuality , the kiss , what if it turned out i'm gay , coming out , my family ....etc -Then i decided to calm down and take it step by step . -I've tried to find out if there is a scheme to follow about how to know if u r gay , Bi or in a phase ! (sounds stupid but i was so desprate) So anyway ,i'm still lost and it seems i'll stay like that for a while
You could take the Kinsey Test, I think it's available on this website. After you respond to 15 or so questions, it would evaluate your answers, whether they're gay, bi, or straight, with indications like you're bi, leaning to gay, or bi leaning to straight. Sexuality is complex, I don't know of any scheme to follow that will tell you if you're gay or bi. One indicator many people use is who you notice in public - who does your eye go to - handsome guys, pretty girls, or both? If you're always noticing guys, that'd say you're more gay. Another indicator is who you dream about, or if you jack off, who you're fantasizing about. If you're fantasizing about guys, you're probably more gay than straight. There are many flavors of bisexuality. Some men are in a heterosexual relationship, w kids, but have a fwb guy partner on the side, or maybe watch gay porn. I know a guy who lives w his girlfriend and his boyfriend. You've talked about your boyfriend. Have you had a girlfriend?
I'll try it ASAP . Regarding who do i notice first .... mmm it's kinda complicated. I mean i've never paid attention to such things. Let's say i've always been a typical nerd guy who loves books . I've never been in any relationship other than friendship . However i can't recall that i have ever had any feelings towards guys except a couple of months ago . What about girls ? I do notice their beauty and everything but i'm not sure how do i feel sexually towards them ! I would also say that the culture has a big rule in everything . Huh , sounds weird ! I mean it seems that the only relationship i've ever had is with my books . Abd now i'm questioning whether i was straight , gay or bi :bang: Every question is answered with a more confusing answer :eusa_doh:
It seems there are several forms of kinsey test ! . I've tried several ones and it got me more confused . One of the forms result was that i'm non-sexual ! LOL ! Imust say the test got me to no where in knowing my sexuality .
