I have a genuine question about what you think the difference is between finding someone attractive and being attracted to that someone is? I've been wondering this with regards to my sexuality, because I feel like I can recognize when men are attractive, but I'm not really sure if I'm attracted to them or not. Meanwhile, with women, it comes a lot more easily. I feel like there's a difference, but it's hard for me to say how. Thanks!
I think it depends on the type of attraction. Is it emotional, romantic, sexual, aesthetic? When you see a guy who you think is attractive, what do feel afterwards? Is there a desire to get to know the person more, or want to do coupley things? Can you imagine engaging in sexual acts with said person? For an example, I can find someone aesthetically attractive without sexual and romantic attraction. I can experience none of these and still acknowledge that a person is attractive to others in general.
I feel the same way. I can find men attractive and appreciate their looks just like I can with women, like I find Ryan Reynolds attractive. However, when I find a female attractive I want something from her and I can imagine myself loving a woman much easier than loving a man even though I like the idea of having a traditional family and carrying my children and such. I would be much happier with a girl and I think that is the feeling tied into my attraction toward them. When I like a guy I just don't want more. When I like a girl I can see something bigger even if it would never happen outside my imagination. Everyone is different, you can love the way you want to. -Ky
