I've had emotional issues in the past, and I don't know if they're what's causing my problem right now, but I can't really think of any other reason. I can't get as romantically excited as I used to. All I ever used to think about was being with girls all the time 24/7, and although I still want that, my desire has been... dulled down? Like, I know I want to be with a girl eventually, but Im not as lovesick as I usually am, and it's much harder for me to trigger/conjure feelings of romantic/sexual desires. I used to want it so bad, why can't I feel love as much as I used to? I feel more comfortable/secure when I'm having my desires, but once I've had my fun daydreaming and they fade off again, I constantly wonder over and over "what if I'm not gay anymore? what if I'm bi?" And no, I really don't like guys, the idea of that makes me uncomfortable, but in my little panics like this I can overthink that too. I've been overthinking more things too, and love is not the only feeling that's dulled. Could I just have an emotional problem?
I go back and forth with myself as well. From what I've read and others have told me, it's all a part of the process. I tend to be questioning everything lately, and it's worse when I have a bad day. My loss of excitement stems from loneliness which is magnified by depression. I don't doubt that your emotional problems are at least partly to blame for your loss of desire/interest.
Cant say for sure why your "desire(s) are dulled" a bit. There could be many reasons. I've observed I'm not full on "got to have a guy" all the time. My desires wane and ebb like the tide. Wane and ebb, I've noticed changes with stress and happiness.
Hi I am experiencing many of the same feelings but from a guy who (probably, maybe, i don't know) is gay. It makes me feel like my initial feelings that I am gay were just a lie. but then, maybe, its just getting used to it. I have heard that the initial feeling of being gay is being like a teenager, and once you passed that phase, it's like being an adult. The big thrills go away but deeper things come? I don't know I am still on the fence about coming out
