Every gay/lesbian person I come across will say that they're gay, and they don't want to be, and would be straight if they could. Now, I love being gay, if I were given the choice to be straight I wouldn't take it, even if that would be "easier." I don't want to change, but others seem to. Is that ok if I'm not really ashamed? Is the old "I wish I wasn't gay" thing a stereotype? Do you guys wish you could change? I don't, does that mean anything?
I'd say it's 100% ok - and probably the healthiest possible way to feel about it. It's not something we choose, so feeling bad about it would be pretty counter-productive. I'm transgender, and it'd definitely be a lot easier not to be, but I'm with you - I wouldn't change it. It's part of me, and if I lost it I just wouldn't quite be me any more, you know?
If i may, I completely agree with you, I would never change. But I think it has more to do with the way that we process hurt and rejection. Some people think that being straight would mean less rejection... and perhaps thats true, but they see it as something that has caused pain. And why would anyone want pain ? However being who i am has brought me far more joy than pain. And for that I could never be ashamed of who I am, or that I would never change myself. But I understand how someone could see it as such.
