I get what you say, I'm a male, but I feel you, it's hard to tell if you only want to be as confident as someone else, or maybe a good-looking, it happens. To tell the difference, you have to do some thought, cause you just might be obsessed about this girl, do you think about her? Do you think about her with you? You think about how you feel about her? You feel great around her and want to keep her close? You thought about cuddling with her? Hugging her all night? Let's see, if you think about how much you admire this girl, how good she looks, how confident and secure she acts, you would like to be seen by guys like her, probably you want to be like her, but if you picture yourself always interacting to her, touching her or something, you probably want to be with her.