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I have always liked men and now suddenly get aroused by women's bodies

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by cdn, Aug 7, 2016.

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  1. cdn

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    Hi, I have a question that's making me really nervous.
    I have always considered myself a straight female. I've always liked boys and men.
    I am currently in a relationship of 4 years with a man. I am in love with him and I've been attracted to him from the start.
    The thing is that suddenly one day, out of nowhere, I found myself getting wet while looking at a woman on the subway! Since then, I get wet with every woman that I see! I don't even look at their faces, it's just their body. Even if I don't find them good looking, if I look at their boobs or ass, I get wet.
    This has never happened to me before.

    I don't fantasize about them, my body just reacts. Sometimes I don't realize that I'm wet until I start walking and I feel that it's kinda slippery down there.
    Also, I watch porn sometimes and I've always avoided lesbian porn because I wasn't really interested. Now I haven't done the test out of fear of finding out that I may actually like it. I think I know the answer, and that's that I would probably get turned on now that women make me wet.

    I mean fear because I truly don't want to stop loving or being attracted to my boyfriend. I love our life together. This started at a moment when we were having less sex. Sometimes it happens from time to time, but the sex always comes back.

    This started about 2 weeks ago and we haven't had sex since because I'm really nervous about this. I have to say that I don't usually get this wet by just looking at my boyfriend. I get a little wet by looking at him and the rest by touching and smelling him. When I look at women I get really wet, just by looking.

    I'm also worried because it's like I've turned into a person that I don't recognize, it's about my identity. I've always been very aware of my own presence and known myself very well, except for now. I feel like a stranger!

    Could I be bi or starting to become a lesbian? Could this be a transition? Or am I just becoming more sexual? I can turn myself on when I look at myself in the mirror naked now. This didn't happen before.

    Thanks for the feedback! I've talked about this with my boyfriend and he says that I shouldn't worry because if it turns out that I'm becoming a lesbian, he will accept me and we can always stay friends. But I don't want to be his friend! I want to be his girlfriend.
     
    #1 cdn, Aug 7, 2016
  2. Mifora

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    I just read your post, and I am going through a very similar thing, except that I have a child, which makes this even more scary. I have realized that the attraction towards women have been coming and going my whole life, but I have sort of repressed it and forgotten about it, because sometimes it's not even there. And also I'm attracted to men as well, which kind of makes it easier to forget about being attracted to women - does that make sense?

    I also get turned on by looking at women's bodies. I don't get that turned on by looking at my husband, but I get aroused by he's smell and he's touch. Very similar. I don't really fantasize about women except when I "force" myself to do it, but I look at them a lot.

    If your are bisexual, it is totally normal that you are attracted to different genders in different ways, and that one attraction is stronger than the other at some points of your life. I think that's the case for me, but I am still questioning.

    Have you tried googling "sexual fluidity"?
     
    #2 Mifora, Aug 11, 2016
  3. Patagonia

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    You just might be becoming more sexual, discovering things about yourself you never would imagine existed. But it also sounds like you are very strongly committed to him - regardless if you are straight or bi. There are no immediate answers to your questions. And not to get preachy, but temptation is everywhere. Just don't be afraid of your feelings. And don't feel guilty either. Dont try to hide from them. They are part of who you are, just like the color of your eyes. And its all good. OK?
     
    #3 Patagonia, Aug 11, 2016
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