so my family is really anti gay but i really like girls and im pretty sure im lesbian - tried looking at porn with men in but hate it and just want to see girls - but they keep teasing me about boys and ask me if i getting a boyf and which guys in my school i like. Alomst certain im 100 percent lesbian though, and i know they would hate that. is it possible i could just be confused and looking at girls but really bi or straight?
^ this summarises my thoughts on this pretty well. If you feel like you're '100% lesbian', then you probably are. Even if you did happen to be bisexual, if your real desire is for women then being bisexual won't change that. I think you're wishing you could be attracted to men for your families sake, but ultimately it's you who has to live your life, and not them. Big hugs to you! x
I know you don't want it to be but it does sound like wishful thinking and tbh I am having those exact same thoughts. I also don't really know what you should do but just thought i'd let you know, your not alone in your dilemma. So yeah sorry for the super unhelpful post but I feel for you girl
It doesn't sound to me like you want to be bi...it's not like your family is anti-gay but would be fine with bisexuality. You want to be straight, no? You sound as though you assume that a bisexual person can decide whether to want sex with a man or a woman. Straight, gay, or bi, you don't get to choose what your body or mind wants. You fall in love with who you fall in love with. And you crave sex with who you crave sex with...generically and specifically. You can be as bi as you like and fall head over heels for another woman...and your desire not to disappoint your family becomes a moot point.
I don't think your sexuality should be determined by your family preferences. What do you really want? Be true to yourself
I get where you're coming from, but being someone who you're not doesn't help YOU in the long run. I know you want to please your family but you have to make sure you are happy as well. As selfish as it sounds, your happiness is more important than theirs. As of right now, you don't have to disclose your orientation to anyone at the moment, especially if it's not safe, but always remember that this is YOUR life; live it truthly and be in love with someone that you are attracted to.
