Okay, so I have a question for y'all. I'm a 28 yo male and I've always identified as 100%, Kinsey 6, gold star gay. I've been in an amazing relationship with an awesome man for 3.5 years. I've only ever dated men in the past and have barely even kissed a woman (just the occasional platonic "mwah mwah, kiss kiss dahling.") Lately, however, I've been questioning my sexuality. I think it started when I learned that one of my exes, who had previously identified as gay, now identifies as bi. I was kinda shocked, but it got me thinking "what if I was bi," and now I can't stop thinking about it. It's one of the first things that pops in my head when I wake up in the morning. It's causing some serious, anxiety-induced nausea (at least that's what I think it is; I have a pretty sensitive stomach/gag reflex regardless.) I've been monitoring my genital reaction whenever I'm around people/watching TV/reading or listening to audiobooks/etc., with confusing and inconsistent results. When I look at women I do feel something in my "junk," but I don't know whether or not to classify it as arousal. I don't really feel "turned on" like I do with guys, but I sometimes get a sharp, uncomfortable tingly or "wriggly" sensation, without actually getting hard. It's usually accompanied by anxiety/nausea. Straight porn does turn me on somewhat, but lesbian porn doesn't do anything for me, so I think I'm just turned on by the novelty of seeing a hot guy have sex with a woman when I'm so used to watching guys have sex with each other. But who knows? Apparently I don't. The thing is I just can't seem to stop questioning and dissecting my thoughts and reactions. From elementary school through college most of my friends have been women and I never thought about them sexually or romantically. Now though, whenever I see a woman on public or on TV I obsessively "check" for signs of arousal. I have had obsessive thoughts about other things before, but not like this. What is going on with me? Am I freaking out over nothing? Am I actually bi/straight? Any insight would be appreciated. I'm happy to provide further clarification if necessary. Sorry if my train of thought is confusing or too long.
Yes. Your freaking out over nothing. If, you are bi then without you expecting it you'll fall for a girl. But, you haven't.
I agree, you are freaking out over nothing. You truly know what turns you on. The other night I actually tested myself during masturbation. No porn, just my imagination. So in the middle of it thinking up my gay fantasies, I thought about sexual acts with a woman, and I gave it my best attempt, but my erection totally went down. I had to laugh. Give that a try, then post back and tell me you're gay -- or not?
