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Denial, Rationalization? Questioning, could use some advice

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by mcpie92, Sep 22, 2016.

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  1. mcpie92

    mcpie92
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    Hello,
    I just joined this site after looking around for a few months. I'm a 24 year old woman who has identified as straight for most of my life. There was a period when I was 17 when I also questioned my sexual orientation after kissing my female friend, but I was dating a guy at the time and just chalked it up to a one time thing.
    I've always dated men, but found sex with them just "okay" and about a year ago, after living with my (straight) female friend I started questioning my sexuality. I wondered if I was jealous of her boyfriends because they were with her (romantically) and I wasn't, or because they were hogging my bff (haha.)
    Anyway, I downloaded a dating app and went on a date with a girl, we didn't click, but I can't shake the anxiety that I might like girls.
    I have heard lots of stories about people who have always known they are LGBT, since they were young, but I've only heard of one woman who didn't realize she was a lesbian until she was in her 20s. I just feel anxious and like I can't identify as anything because I've never been with a woman. I keep going back and forth with the "am I or aren't I" thing and I hate it. Can anyone offer words of advice, or personal experience? Thank you in advance.
     
    #1 mcpie92, Sep 22, 2016
  2. PrettyinPunk

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    Hey I didn't know I could be into girls until I was in my early 20's, some folks just take the slow route. :grin: You can identify however you want, you don't need experience or proof in order to do so.
    I can understand that it might be daunting to not get immediate confirmation on your sexuality but just go one step at a time. I'd keep on meeting with more women and just be honest with them and yourself and see how things turn out.

    Welcome to EC btw!:smilewave
     
    #2 PrettyinPunk, Sep 22, 2016
  3. mcpie92

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    Thank you, I appreciate that! :slight_smile:
     
    #3 mcpie92, Sep 22, 2016
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