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Attracted in my head, but not real lfie

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Tsumiguchi, Sep 22, 2016.

  1. Tsumiguchi

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    I am generally attracted sexually to manly men. But it is very, very rare for me to feel an emotional or sexual connection with someone. I am in my twenties and only ever had a crush once. Basically, I notice good looking guys, but all attraction fades once I talk to them and interact as people. I've tried spending time with men and women on dates, but I just felt bored. I didn't even want sex.

    I watch a lot of gay porn, though. And when I am primed by that, I also feel desire for women's bodies - not even all women, particularly large-bodied curvaceous women. But the thing is, my enjoyment of all porn has been going down more and more.

    So I enjoy the idea of sex and the idea of a beautiful body, but I basically never look at someone in real life and think I would want to have sex or a relationship with them. Am I still gay? Is this relatable in the slightest?
     
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    Have you already tried to stop watching porn for a few days or weeks? They can manipulate the way you perceive your sexuality. By the way, you could have a look at asexual experiences too, just in case.