26 year old male who has been questioning his sexuality. When I think of sex with women or erotic situations with women I can get hard if I'm not obsessing or anxious questioning my sexuality. However, this seems to be occurring less and less. I usually get erect to have intercourse with my significant other (woman), but sometimes I can't and it's usually when I'm obsessing. When I can't it really bothers me. However after intercourse lately I question if I really liked it. I love looking at female bodies but I wonder if I just trained myself to do so over time? When in masturbate I've always thought of women but I wonder if I just haven't allowed myself to think of guys? I'm on anti-anxiety pills for the moment and have less of a sexual drive, it drives me crazy obsessing. I find an interest in guys physically speaking but haven't been able to get erect thinking about guys or guys in a sexual situation yet. However I just can't shake this constant wondering. I can't if I'm feeling aroused or anxious anymore or how to differentiate the two. This constant wondering is just driving me nuts. Sometimes I get this uplifting sensation in my chest with guys, a sensation I used to have with girls. I can't tell if it's anxious (fight or flight) or envy or arousal. Does arousal always lead to an erection? I'd ideally like to talk to a bisexual man as I have a strong reason to believe this could be me. Any help is good help, thank you.
If you already have anxiety issues then this could be part of your problem. I don't think anxiety with women means you are into guys.
Anxiety can have effects on sexual arousal. Being interested in guys physically could potentially be an indicator for being bisexual, but not necessarily. There are straight guys out there who are able to notice and appreciate a guy that looks good.
I feel like I sympathize with you to some extent. However, I've enjoyed gay porn on numerous occasions in the past 8 or 9 years, so we may be on two different pages. But what I do get is the uncertainty about doing things with women. Not so much uncertainty of wanting to do it when it's going to happen, but of reflecting on it too much during it, feeling that I should be enjoying it more. But I don't know if sex is always supposed to be amazing and if anxiety could really play an effect.
