Hi, I placed dit also under "Gay later in live" but maybe this is a better place... 55 and still don't know what i want. It seems that i'm still growing more and more to the gay side. I've all ways had sexual attraction to men an women. In my 20th it was around 30% men and 70% women I think a 2 on de Kinsey scale. In my 30th and 40th it was like it was growing from 50% / 50% to 70% / 30% say a 4 on the Kinsey scale. Now it al most 90%/10%. say a 5. Unfortunately I see my self still as heteroromantic the romantic side did not grown with it. I ask my self often is this because i got internalized homophobia or is there an other reason. It would be easy if it was paralell on each other. The problem now is that i would like to have real relationship with somebody but I really don't anymore if I should go for a women or a man. A good notion should be: " well it's gonna be the one you fall in love with and one day she or he crosses your path". But thats the problem because if I want a man. I will have to really find it online or in the gay scene. I wish there was a way to get it line with each other. Than I should, I think, make the choice to being gay. What will I do? Is this Familiar to anyone! I should like to solve this once and for all, because it running my head to much.. Greetz Quick reply to this message Reply Reply With Quote Reply With Quote Multi-Quote This Message
In my experience, the majority of people who label themselves as hetero/biromantic homosexual do not have that orientation. Most of it is because of internalized homophobia, especially in men. Gay sex can be discreet, but having a boyfriend is overt and grounds for discrimination. Many don't want to give up the ideal image of a wife and kids. Many confuse a deep friendship with a woman for romance. I'm not saying it doesn't exist at all. But I am a bit skeptical with how common It's turning up these days, especially in people who haven't been out for very long.
Yes I agree, But I'm out as a bisexual from my 30th. Not to every one. But close family and friends. But what to do if you don't fall in love with men, Maybe i did not open up yet to mr. right... I don't know. I placed this same txt on bisexual.com and there are more people with te same problems. Anybody here who is experience the same?
