Im a girl and im quite sure im gay, and have come out to a few people since i am lucky enough to be in a very accepting and open environment. I should mention that im a virgin though, and have never done more than kiss both genders. Im 17 by the way. I like women, all women, girly, androgynous, all of them. My preference tends to be for more butch girls though. Girls doing masculine things turns me on most. Men in general do not at all, men doing manly things don't, men doing girly things dont. This is were it gets super weird though, and were the title came from... When watching porn, I tend to be into the d... ONLY if its big, and nothing else about men turns me on. Abs, body hair, dirty talk from men, it does nothing for me. Yet dicks in porn get me off for some reason...? Don't get me wrong, lesbian porn gets me off as well. In real life i only ever check out women. Except for, okay this is super embarrassing, a guy has a visible bulge. For some fucking reason I find it hot. My question is basically, am I gay? Am I bi? I couldn't really imagine myself in a relationship with a guy, but a one night stand would be okay tbh. Though except for dick everything else about guys is not sexy to me at all. However those masculine traits such as muscles and boyish fashion are very hot to me on women. Basically im attracted to masculine things on women, but not on men. Im also attracted to feminine things on women but lesser so. Im not attracted to anything about men... except for dick... help..?
Homoromantic bisexual perhaps? (With the usual disclaimer about labels.) Just remember to treat those guys nice.. don't let them think you're going to be their romantic savior. (We do imagine such things.) The funny thing is I feel the same way as your last three sentences.
To me it just sounds like you want to be penetrated during sexual situations and might have a fetish for being penetrated by larger objects. Women are able to penetrate too (whether with a strap-on or because they are AMAB) - if the only thing that is arousing to you is the actual penis itself, and nothing else, I feel like you are probably thinking of it more as a sexual object that you can use for pleasure rather than as an actual part of the person it's attached to. I hope that makes sense. Do you feel the same about dildos/strap-ons (realistic or non-realistic) or is it purely those attached to people? It should be noted porn is a terrible indicator for sexuality. The majority of people get turned on when they watch sexual acts - AFAB bodies are designed to become aroused when seeing/experiencing something sexual because being penetrated if you are not aroused can do serious damage. That's why people who are raped may end up becoming aroused, even though they are very clearly not turned on or "into" the situation; it's a defense mechanism to prevent harm to the body. AMAB people are similarly aroused but for different reasons. There are also many, many, many lesbian women who do not watch lesbian or even straight porn - they watch gay male porn since the majority of lesbian/straight porn is tailored for straight men and is incredibly unrealistic. Gay male porn tends to be more "raw" and realistic. It'd be much more realiable for you to cut out porn for a while and focus on fantasizing instead. What does your mind naturally drift towards when you begin fantasizing? Is what you naturally fantasize fulfilling for you? Once you've determined that, try consciously thinking about specific things and comparing them to each other - for example, if you fantasise about women penetrating you, does that arouse you more than imagining men penetrating you? Do you feel more fulfilled after imagining women than you do imagining men? Do you feel anything about men at all if you fantasize them? I hope this is able to help, and good luck.
Luckily for you, some women have dicks. And the women who don't can use very realistic "dick-like" things.
Sounds like you're gay. You like women, and you don't like men. Liking penises doesn't change that. I second what creativemind said. Some women have penises, and some women have strap ons. And being attracted to a woman with a penis (whether it's real or a strap on) is very different than being attracted to a man.
Homoromantic bisexual here. The way it works for me is, like you said, I'm very inclined to checking out women, but never men. I can't picture myself in a relationship with them of any sort either. But when it comes to acts, I'm fine with a guy doing it, it just won't have the whole romanticism of it attached. You sound pretty much the same.
