Okay, so I've known that I'm asexual, ace, for a while now. However, recently I've started questioning my romantic orientation. I've talked about this a bit with some of my other queer friends, and they agree that it might be harder for me to figure that out because I don't have a sexual component. I can't look at someone and determine if I'm attracted to them platonically or romantically as easily because I never think any sexual about them. Which brings me to my predicament. I'm 99% certain that I'm not only straight (meaning that I'm either straight, pan, or bi) and not just gay/lesbian. However, I can't get further than that. I know that there isn't really advice that can be given, there's no step-by-step how-to guide. But if anyone has been here or knows someone who has, I'd just like to know that I'm not the only worried about this. I would also appreciate any and all possible advice, if any can be given. Thanks, all! Have some cake!
Just a note: I've never seen a difference between genders, be they male/female or something less clear-cut.
So you would have a relationship with any gender, men, women, non-binaries? If so, you can identify as pan.
It's just hard for me to figure this out because I have very little reference for romantic feelings and none for sexual ones. So all I have to go on is a lack of aversion based on gender.