Dear All, I am a 17 yr old Male and I have always considered myself a "Straight" male, at least up until a year ago. I used to get off solely on Lesbian porn for around 2 years and I was able to get erections from little things such as music videos with dancing women, twerking compilations, movies with certain women.etc. And then around a year ago, I had started to be more and more interested in Men sexually, however there was also the attraction to women there aswell. However, recently there has been an extreme increase in my attraction to men and there has been an extreme decrease in my attraction to women. Women have started to turn me off in certain situations and they are generally not as exciting as they once were, however men have became alot more exciting and they are currently my main attraction/arousal. Now, it is not like I would not be aroused to say a woman grinding on me or if a woman is willing to have sex with me, it is just that my attraction to woman is but a shadow of what it once was. Men used to be the ones that would turn me off but now they are the main focus of my arousal, for example fantasies of women will no longer do anything for me but men seem alot more entertaining same as in porn. I have been involved with around 5 girls and I loved being with them and 1 in particular I am upset that it did not work out with her. When I was with the girls, I was not at all feeling as if I was 'masking' my sexuality nor did I avoid situations sexually. One time I actually ended up paying quite a large amount of money on a taxi to see an ex gf to have sex with her(Sorry if that is scumbaggy). Anyways, the point is that these interactions with me and ex gfs have made me feel as if it may be bi sexuality, but that does not explain why Men are generally the ones that will turn me on and give me the most attraction. Now, I do not feel as if I am completely gay, but it is extremely worrying me how most of the time women are no longer turning me on. I mean it is not as if I can not get off on women at all because I can, it is just very confusing to me as to why I am turned on by the occasional woman and am more often than not going to be turned on by a man instead. I have seen some forums of people who thought that they were completely gay but they happened to meet one woman and they have been married happily for quite some time. Now, this makes me question if I may be "Pan Sexual" or something similar as it does not make sense to me as to why I can be attracted physically to girls that I am in love with emotionally or that look a certain way, but majority of 'Hot' guys turn me on. It is extremely confusing and I am just looking for somebody to sort of relate to the situation and give me some advice on what they may think it is.
Porn isn't a great indicator of your sexuality. Have you ever been attracted to guys in real life? Ever thought about them?
Yeah. But I mean if it's going on irl attractions then I guess i would be almost exclusively hetero. I don't really find myself attracted to men irl as I have stated and I have never felt attracted to my friends as a large amount of gays apparently do. Irl I have always get attraction to women and I can get erections for sure with women irl, yet again as I have previously stated. ---------- Post added 24th Oct 2016 at 07:02 PM ---------- TBH idk y I asked random strangers for help with something for with this. It doesn't make any sense, I mean yes sure I may not be the straightest kid but I am definitely nt gay. Even if it is heavily favouring men, there have been far to many occasions where it is positive for girls aswel. Thanks for the reply anyways.
You could give it a try with a man, maybe? Do you have sexual fantasies with men too? How about crushes?
Hi The Main Hitta, What you did is not " scumbaggy" its called being a teenager. All sorts of feelings and hormones at your age. So if you masturbate do you think of girls or guys? Maybe human sexuality is fluid and can change at times in our lives? Maybe your overthinking this right now? Go with what feels right? Are you physically and sexually attracted more to guys than girls? Remember society tries to tell us that we HAVE to be attracted to girls...Would you be upset if you were gay/bi and not straight? That was/maybe still my problem...acceptance.
Nah, I mean men do turn me on more than women, but that doesn't explain the fact as to why I get some sort of feeling over women and there definetely still is attraction there still. It just isn't the same as it used to be, I mean I loved being with women and I will love to in the future, it's just that my attraction to men is stronger. That seems to be the general overlay of what it is, I mean when I made this post yesterday I was extremely anxious and overthinking things(as I often do with most things). Anyways, I mean today once I had cooled down, I was able to get erections about even women on the train to work and thinking about sex with girls, I mean there was a woman next to me and I couldn't control my boner when I was thinking about her and looking at her. Now that doesn't sound as if it is a completely gay man to me. Possibly a stronger attraction to men but the fact that I can have sex with women, be emotionally attracted and physically to women and the fact that women turn me on is quite an indicator that I am not completely gay. Thanks for trying to push me to confront my fears, but I have already confronted my fears and am coming to terms to accept that I am bisexual with a attraction to men more and that I will not be the 'typical' straight guy and I won't be attracted to some things that 'typical' gay guy would be. I more or less wrote on the forum to see what type of comments people would make and also to try to ease myself and get a voice out when I was in a period of overthinking/stressful. I mean people I know irl have told me that I am probably bi sexual and they would have alot more of an indicator than some random online strangers. Either way, i'm going to have to accept that I will often be attracted to men and occasionaly to women, it's going to be confusing at time but it is what it is I guess. Thanks again everyone, I won't be logging back on as there is no need. I hope I may have been able to help anybody going through a similar struggle if I have at all.
No one online or in real life can tell you that you are bi. You either are or you aren't. So there is no difference between what people tell you here or in person. I hope you found what you were looking for.
