Sorry if this sounds like a stupid or weird question but since I've been looking for guys locally online I've noticed that most (80%) state that they are strictly bottom, about 15% are top and only a handful say they are versatile. 1. is this just my impression or my local area? 2. if not, are most gay guys only one role for a reason? 3. do guys find that they start trying both and end up preferring one role? Again, sorry for asking such a weird question but I would be happy being either and wonder why so many guys state a preference?
I'm not sure, since I'm not a man. But I too have noticed that most gay guys I've seen or been around prefer to be bottom. However, one of my best guy friends is gay and is a versatile/top. I don't know if this has anything to do with your local area.
I'm personally a bottom, but I wouldn't mind at all being top if I ever meet someone even more submissive than me. I think it could be related to the society, you would never hear someone screaming that they want to bottom, because being submissive is, by lots of people, seen as a weakness. So, on the Internet, those bottoms share their will of being submissive. After all, you have nothing to lose and you are anonymous. I also see lots of people posting their desire to be bottom, mostly on porn sites, could be because of their horniness (dunno if that's a real word, but whatever)
80% as total bottoms has not been my experience. I haven't noticed that much of skew on the gay hookup sites here in the US. I've found that a lot of gay guys (much more than 5% than you report) are versatile and married guys tend to be more inclined to be bottoms. I think it depends on where you've been looking online. CL might be an exception where there seems to be more bottoms.
Could be because they have tried it, or because it just clicks (seems "right" for them). =] I'm versatile myself, I like both.
I have tried anything with anybody before but I know bottoming is for me. I'm kinda feminine myself and I love playing the female role in a relationship. So bottoming just seems right for me. ---------- Post added 7th Nov 2016 at 12:04 PM ---------- I meant haven't not have.
My experience in NYC has been closer in line to what Sienna has said here, though I've not really experienced much with married guys, but when I was with a woman my main interest in hooking up with guys was performing oral (I wasn't into anal at all at the time) so I sort of get it in theory. It's that thing you can't necessarily get from your SO.
I am a verse guy that loves both roles. I have been topped by a 5 guys in my life. Four of them were great and the others were just jerks. My first was a top with a hot cock able to shoot his load about 2 feet. It was so hot to get that hot load in me. A couple were from listings on CL which were one time events. I was in a relationship with a 100% bottom. So I was 100% top at the time. He knew I want wed to bottom so he encouraged me to find a guy that would do a three way. I did meet a guy a guy who has little experience with topping but wants to be verse. When I told the bottom guy things fell apart between him and I. The new guy and I have hit it off well. I have topped him once and he has topped me twice. I enjoy being bottom since I don't have to worry. He is patient with thrusting until he knows I am ready for him to thrust as he wants. He still does not try to hurt me which is great. I just relax and concentrate on his cock sliding in and out. When I topped him I gave him a bj and then entered him while he way on his back. I came in him and he really enjoyed how careful I was with topping him.
I don't have a lot of experience with the apps but I do have quite a bit of... experience. In my experience most guys are versatile and of those who are exclusively one or the other there's probably a slight majority of tops. It's certainly not a large enough sample to be scientific but it's... considerable.
I think it highly differs on the location. However, worldwide I like to believe that there's an even 'top - bottom ratio'. I've never had sex but I know for sure I'm a bottom, and that I would never top anyone. I generally keep an open mind for anything, but I feel penetrating is my ultimate turn off.
I haven't come out yet but my fantasizing is 90% bottom or orally pleasing a guy. But when I see a guy with a nice ass, I just want to dive in
I'm versatile--it all depends on my partner/level of, ahem, readiness. Basically, if I'm reeeeeally horny, I'm a top, 90% of the time.
It really depends. It's been my personal experience that most gay guys I know or have interacted with through dating sites tend to be bottoms or prefer it to topping. I think even on this site when gay males are polled it tends to skew bottom. There's even a stereotype that tops are highly sought after.
Haven't had sex yet but the idea of bottoming sounds way better than topping. That being said though, I could probably top if I had to.