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Top/Bottom/Versatile?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Garyroberts, Nov 7, 2016.

  1. Garyroberts

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    Sorry if this sounds like a stupid or weird question but since I've been looking for guys locally online I've noticed that most (80%) state that they are strictly bottom, about 15% are top and only a handful say they are versatile.

    1. is this just my impression or my local area?
    2. if not, are most gay guys only one role for a reason?
    3. do guys find that they start trying both and end up preferring one role?

    Again, sorry for asking such a weird question but I would be happy being either and wonder why so many guys state a preference?
     
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    I'm not sure, since I'm not a man. But I too have noticed that most gay guys I've seen or been around prefer to be bottom. However, one of my best guy friends is gay and is a versatile/top.

    I don't know if this has anything to do with your local area.
     
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    I'm personally a bottom, but I wouldn't mind at all being top if I ever meet someone even more submissive than me.

    I think it could be related to the society, you would never hear someone screaming that they want to bottom, because being submissive is, by lots of people, seen as a weakness.

    So, on the Internet, those bottoms share their will of being submissive. After all, you have nothing to lose and you are anonymous.

    I also see lots of people posting their desire to be bottom, mostly on porn sites, could be because of their horniness (dunno if that's a real word, but whatever)
     
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    80% as total bottoms has not been my experience. I haven't noticed that much of skew on the gay hookup sites here in the US. I've found that a lot of gay guys (much more than 5% than you report) are versatile and married guys tend to be more inclined to be bottoms. I think it depends on where you've been looking online. CL might be an exception where there seems to be more bottoms.
     
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    I'm completely a bottom. I rarely think about topping a guy unless I'm really really really hard.
     
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    Could be because they have tried it, or because it just clicks (seems "right" for them). =]

    I'm versatile myself, I like both. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I have tried anything with anybody before but I know bottoming is for me. I'm kinda feminine myself and I love playing the female role in a relationship. So bottoming just seems right for me.

    ---------- Post added 7th Nov 2016 at 12:04 PM ----------

    I meant haven't not have.
     
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    My experience in NYC has been closer in line to what Sienna has said here, though I've not really experienced much with married guys, but when I was with a woman my main interest in hooking up with guys was performing oral (I wasn't into anal at all at the time) so I sort of get it in theory. It's that thing you can't necessarily get from your SO.
     
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    I am a verse guy that loves both roles. I have been topped by a 5 guys in my life. Four of them were great and the others were just jerks. My first was a top with a hot cock able to shoot his load about 2 feet. It was so hot to get that hot load in me. A couple were from listings on CL which were one time events. I was in a relationship with a 100% bottom. So I was 100% top at the time. He knew I want wed to bottom so he encouraged me to find a guy that would do a three way. I did meet a guy a guy who has little experience with topping but wants to be verse. When I told the bottom guy things fell apart between him and I. The new guy and I have hit it off well. I have topped him once and he has topped me twice. I enjoy being bottom since I don't have to worry. He is patient with thrusting until he knows I am ready for him to thrust as he wants. He still does not try to hurt me which is great. I just relax and concentrate on his cock sliding in and out. When I topped him I gave him a bj and then entered him while he way on his back. I came in him and he really enjoyed how careful I was with topping him.
     
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    I don't have a lot of experience with the apps but I do have quite a bit of... experience. In my experience most guys are versatile and of those who are exclusively one or the other there's probably a slight majority of tops. It's certainly not a large enough sample to be scientific but it's... considerable.
     
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    I think it highly differs on the location. However, worldwide I like to believe that there's an even 'top - bottom ratio'.

    I've never had sex but I know for sure I'm a bottom, and that I would never top anyone. I generally keep an open mind for anything, but I feel penetrating is my ultimate turn off.
     
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    I haven't come out yet but my fantasizing is 90% bottom or orally pleasing a guy. But when I see a guy with a nice ass, I just want to dive in :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm versatile--it all depends on my partner/level of, ahem, readiness.

    Basically, if I'm reeeeeally horny, I'm a top, 90% of the time.
     
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    It really depends. It's been my personal experience that most gay guys I know or have interacted with through dating sites tend to be bottoms or prefer it to topping. I think even on this site when gay males are polled it tends to skew bottom. There's even a stereotype that tops are highly sought after.
     
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    In that case, I'm happy to be mostly a top! (!)(!)(!)
     
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    Haven't had sex yet but the idea of bottoming sounds way better than topping. That being said though, I could probably top if I had to.