Hi Everyone, I am straight guy, sexually speaking and have feelings women romantically like someone who is heterosexual does. But I have romantic feelings for men as well, like I would be just as happy to date a man as a woman. I am not turned off by watching gay sexual encounters but I can't "finish" to a man (video). I have fantasies about dating men and actually get turned on by the thought of making out with a guy who is gay, the thought of being madly in love with a man makes me feel so happy on the inside. I am not interested in watching two men together but the thought of actually having intercourse with a man exites me. In other words I don't like watching gay videos but I would enjoy partaking in said video, the thought of falling in love turns me on sexually. I am literally so confused, like actually writing down these feelings took legit 20 mins to put into words :lol: Any insight or opinion would be helpful, Thanks
Honestly you sound bi but, leaning gay. Who you envision growing old with is a better indicator of orientation than the porn you enjoy. Anyone of any orientation can like any kind of porn and dislike any other. What you prefer to participate in and, whom you can see yourself falling in love with is a better indicator, go by that and, enjoy whatever porn you like.
Thanks for your opinion, it means a lot that someone I have never met cares enough to help with this!
Hey Sean1215, Porn is a poor indicator of your sexuality. You describe being generally unexcited by gay porn, but having fantasies about being with a man. Whom do you fantasize about when you masturbate without porn? Women only? Men only? Women and men? Which fantasies actually make you cum?
When I was much younger, even as young as in the 4th grade, I knew absolutely nothing about sex, gay, bi, hetero, or any other kind. But I did have many experiences where I felt kind of warm all over around certain boys I knew. I had no idea what I was feeling, but I had this incredible desire to just be around them, to have them pay attention to me, to talk to me, things like that. I know now that I was having "crushes" on these guys...before I knew anything about sex. Being gay (or bi or whatever) is about a whole lot more than sex...it's about feelings and emotions and about love and about spending time with someone that you can connect with on more levels than just sex. I am gay, and I have had sex with women, and while I actually think sex with a woman is "hot," (and I like gay and straight porn) there is no way I could connect with a woman on the same emotional level as I can with a man. In many ways, sex is just sex. It's easy to be turned on sexually to someone else I think, but who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, and not just horny, is a much better indicator of your orientation than sex.
