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Am I gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Almost Canadian, Nov 20, 2016.

  1. Almost Canadian

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    I originally came onto this forum stating I was bisexual, and I've always said for the past few years that was sexual orientation.
    I've also made it a point that I have absolutely no romantic interest in women, but I've only ever had romantic interests in men.
    Also I'm mostly attracted to men in general.
    Like 85% if I had to give it a number.
    Now I'm not one to give myself a very specific label.
    But I honestly don't see point in continuing to call myself bisexual.
     
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    Well, you're the only one who can really answer that question.
    But If you don't see the point in calling yourself bisexual, you're probably not bisexual.
     
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    I mean I guess no one is 100% either way, and I'm mostly into men romantically and sexually.
    I'll just call myself gay from now on.
     
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    It's perfectly okay that you call yourself gay now. I'm not 100% lesbian either, but I call myself lesbian rather than bisexual because it's just easier that way.

    The label doesn't matter as much as who you actually are.
     
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    Did you figure out something better than that backscratcher. I was worried about you!

    Don't worry about labels, you are who you are!
     
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    Yeah, I just use my ring and middle finger and go in as far as I can.
    In few years I'll be living on my own and maybe even have a boyfriend.
    So I'll be able to privately buy anything I so please.
     
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    You're the only one who knows the answer.
     
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    For people who are fairly high on the Kinsey scale (4 or higher), it comes down to a personal judgement call whether one identifies as gay or bisexual. I'm technically Kinsey 5 but identify as gay in real life because it feels closer to the truth since I have much stronger sexual and romantic attraction to guys at this point in my life.

    Given that you are 85% attracted to guys, you fall between a Kinsey 4 and 5 (4.75 via mathematical extrapolation), so it's definitely a judgement call on your part. From what you've written, I think that identifying as gay is probably the right call for you, but ultimately it's your call.
     
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