Ok...after reading some threads and not finding the answers I'm looking for I've decided just to ask my question. Am I gay? I look at almost exclusively gay porn, but still look at straight porn from time to time. I know porn is not an indicator of sexuality, but even my sexual fantasies w/o porn are homosexual in nature. That being said, I don't really check out guys when I'm walking down the street or anything and being married to a woman and having kids someday seems desirable to me. I'm 29 years old and tired of being confused, this is the first place I've felt comfortable enough to ask these questions so Id like to give a big thanks to this website. Any thoughts would be much appreciated, thanks!
Hi! I don't know if this may help you but I'm gonna try anyways. You said that you'd like to get married and having kids at some point in life however how I see this myself is something more of a social thing than and actual thinking because is like "it should be" or if you want to call it "the ideal situation\family" and often people want kids because of the genetic idea of it having your own offspring. However this does not applies to everybody. You also said you fantasize about guys which is possible one indicator of homosexual behavior. I can't say if your gay... BUT have you had any urges or crushes in the past regarding same sex? Also you've been or are attracted to woman in a sexual or romantic way before? Hope it helps to a further realization of your sexuality. Have a nice day.
I presume you are gay by what you are saying... Have you tried dating a guy? Try it and you'll know. Then again, if you feel like marrying a woman and having kids with her, then do it.
You certainly could be gay or bisexual, having homosexual fantasies without porn is a decent indicator. Before I accepted myself I never used to check out guys in public, but once I became OK with it I started noticing guys all the time in public. Getting married and having kids is also appealing to me, but I know that a relationship with a woman would not work out for me. Have you ever been attracted to either gender? If so which one are you attracted to more? Physically or emotionally or both? Answering those questions to yourself could help you figure things out.
