Hello im new here and ive been searching for some help. ive read numerous post similar to what im experiencing myself, but havent quite found one thats like mine, so here goes. im 38 now and i have had this curiousity about sex with other men. it started about 16 years ago. i found myself attracted to the idea of being with another man. now im not attracted to the looks of another man, just more attracted to the sex acts with a man. topping/bottoming, oral. the whole nine yards. i was able to ether suppress the curiosity or totally forgot about it for some time. 8 years ago i married my wife still with no hetero thoughts, until about 3 years ago. thats when i started to secretly chat with other gay men even sucked a guy off. then last year i really started to explore joining gay dating sites even meeting a couple guys at a bookstore. i still dont find myself attracted to the looks of another guy, but get turned on by his penis or the thought of being sexual with him. i still love my wife and straight porn still turns me on. im just at a lose of where i should fit in and how i would go about telling my wife if i should. about this secret desire i have with out disappointing her or losing her all together over this. sorry for the long post and again thanks for any and all help
That's pretty much me too. Except I'm only interested in oral. (With guys. No romance. With girls, now that's where the whole nine yards come in.) My impression from browsing online forums and classifieds is that this is more common than... well than I used to think anyway. For labels, if one is needed, I say I'm heteroromantic and bisexual. These are rather controversial labels in some circles, but there's so much variety in the world that they must apply to someone. Like me. Possibly you. ---------- Post added 2nd Dec 2016 at 10:09 AM ---------- Oh, about the wife: other people better advise you on that. I'm single. But have found quite a number of women for whom guy-guy action or MMF are turn-ons.
