Hi guys!:eusa_danc okay ... uff! I'd love to have your help because I'm determined to find out my true sexuality. I know I am not straight because I am attracted to males, I just need to see a topless guy to be aroused. However, I'm not so sure whether I am bisexual or gay. That's because I am attracted to girls and I like masturbating thinking of them, and when I watch porn I really enjoy watching their beautiful bodies; nevertheless I have some difficulties getting aroused by real girls, but I think this is due to anxiety; I still did several times, though, maybe when I was more relaxed. Thus, I have evidence of being attracted to both sexes when I was 10 yo, when I didn't give a f* about labels ((!)) I am asking this because my mom clearly suspects I am not straight at all (just 5 mins ago she told me "[...] at your girlfriend, or boyfriend, who knows, we're a gay friendly family!". I want to come out to her and this is why I'm asking you to help me determine my true sexuality. I still think I'm bisexual slightly leaning to the gay end of the spectrum. What really scares me is to get things wrong (like, maybe I don't like girls at all and it's just an ... "inner lie" I built?) and to come out in the wrong way. THANKS! (!) really, you would do me a HUGE favor because in this way I can finally boost my "accept myself as I am" process :eusa_danc I'm questioning my sexuality since I was 12 and that's SO nice! I'm open to give you further details (!) thanks in advance for your help!
Hi, that's great that your family is so accepting! I understand you want to get it "right", but you can accept who you are without having to feel like you need one clear label. I think the best step to take right now, is to accept that things are not entirely clear cut for you, and perhaps express that to your mother as well. Sexuality is very complicated and fluid, and even if you feel like you've finally figured it out, it could very well change in a few years. It's more important to try to be honest to your feeling now, instead of trying to "get it right". However, from what you've mentioned, I think you are bisexual. Most bisexuals lean towards one or the other, and it could also fluctuate, so maybe you don't have to think too much of getting the right degree of bisexuality as a label. I'm sure that as you grow older and gain more experience, you will naturally become more comfortable with your sexuality.
