This is unusual for me to post. I have a Roomate and was in the Shower. He had to use the Toilet. I was in the Shower and he could most likely see me through the privacy glass, but not details. I was doin my thing showering and I went to wash my backside. I realized he could see me doing that from where he was and I moved. Well IT moved but only like 3-4 Centimeters but it wasn't an erection or anything. Does this mean I am Bi or Gay? I am 30 Years old and have always been interested in Women. However sometimes around Men I feel odd down there. Nothing Sexual, but a feeling. I would never do anything with him and he is Straight also. Could it have just been nerves, Ect.? -Carl O. ---------- Post added 6th Dec 2016 at 05:28 PM ---------- Meant to say Milimeters, not Centi.
Hey Carl, From the little you wrote, you seem to be overthinking things. Depending on your age, guys can start to get excited by lots of things - many of which have nothing to do with their sexual orientation - such as porn of any type, strong sudden feelings in the shower, or even a strong gust of wind. If this is the first time this has happened to you, I'd just forget about it. It doesn't seem to be at all significant.
Thanks Quantum. Well this isn't the first time. But its a weird thing. I mean it isn't sexual but it isn't something that happens to Straight guys either. I have heard it can be a type of OCD but that is tricky also. Mabey I am over-thinking? I am 31 years old
It's only potentially OCD if you can't get your mind out of the loop. But it IS, in fact, something that happens to other straight guys.
It may be nothing, however, it is uncommon (althought possible) for straight people to start questioning their sexuality. You mentioned that this wasn't the first time that you felt something weird. What about the other times. Also, have you tried fantasizing about men? How do you feel about it?
Oh okay cool. Yeah I figured, because the Penis is a very skitzo thing! But on account of so many chemical attributes in regard to it. ---------- Post added 6th Dec 2016 at 05:47 PM ---------- CHIROPTERA: No I wouldn't really like to Fancy any of that. It seems more an Anxiety/Nervous thing. Well when something unsure happens to someone regardless of Sexual, Physical, Emotional it does bring some doubt to it if it is something that they feel isolates them or they are alone in.
Hey Chiroptera, I know from direct knowledge that it is not at all uncommon for straight guys to occasionally question their sexuality when something 'unusual' happens to them. However, they usually don't dwell on it for very long.
Labels are problematic because of this. But, like i said, yeah, it happens, and that alone doesn't mean the person is gay or bi. But denial also happens, so it is important for the people who is questioning to take a deep breath and take it slow. Thinking about your attractions and fantasies is a good way to discover more about your orientation. In your case, if you don't feel good fantasizing about men, then you are probably straight. But, if you feel something different, it may be worth to think a bit more about it. In the end, only you can discover your orientation. But thinking about your attractions, slowly and calmly, makes it easier to discover more about yourself.
I am insecure to begin with and dwell on more things then most. Not good for health I know! ---------- Post added 6th Dec 2016 at 05:59 PM ---------- I notice Women in ways I don't of Men. Its just what makes this so anxious is that the roommate was right there although, thankfully nothing was seen.
Sure, i also tend to overthink things, and i know that can be a problem in many situations. Because of this, repeating myself, the best advice i can give you is: Take a deep breath and take it slow. The questioning process is about you and yourself, you don't need to worry about labels, and you don't need to reach a conclusion today or tomorrow. If in the end you conclude that you are straight, gay or bi, that's fine. You are who you are, and there's nothing wrong with it. Again: Take it slow. Think about your attractions and your fantasies. Take your time.
What do you think about when you masturbate? Guys or girls? If you never think about guys, then it's a pretty safe bet there's no attraction to guys. Also, nothing you describe sounds remotely like it matches OCD symptoms. You have to remember that OCD, like all mental disorders, exist on a continuum and people may have a symptom or two, here or there, without having a disorder. From what I read, it sounds like you might think a little obsessively about this or that, but nothing you're describing sounds, offhand, like it matches any mental health disorders, nor does anything sound to me like it would suggest that you're gay.
Chip: One time I wanted to see what it would be like to mastetbate and think about guys. I did and of course it being manipulation it felt good. But it wasn't anything to sexual thought wise persae. And I finished thinking if this chick after stopping. Nothing like that has ever happened before and I don't want to experiment like that again really. BTW I am 32 and have a higher sex drive than most. -Carl :bang:
Carl, from what you are describing, I hear nothing that sounds like you have same sex attraction. It is possible you have some anxiety and/or intrusive thoughts. If you find the thoughts persisting, I would suggest this may be something to talk to a therapist about.
